Hello Melaniem

I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis and that since you've been through treatment you're now experiencing relationship problems with your partner. It's more common than people realise but still somewhat of a bit of a taboo subject. I do hope that some of our members who have had intimacy difficulties will post to share their advice and experiences with you. We have some information on our website here which may be of help as well as some information on the Macmillan website that I'm going to link for you. 

Have you spoken to your partner about things? Communication is key in these kinds of situations. It could be that he's scared of hurting you and some simple reassurance and boundaries between the two of you could set you on the right path to improving things. Or, sadly, there could be deeper issues that the two of you need to discuss and decide how you want to move forwards. Either way talking is key. If you need support, for just you or as a couple, to help you broach the subject and talk about things then you might find it helpful to have a look at the Relate website. 

You've been very brave in posting about this subject here on the forum and I do hope that the two of you are able to find a way forward where you're both comfortable and satisfied with things in your relationship. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator