My wife lost her mother to a brain tumour two years ago, aged 70. Now her father is terminally with oesophagal cancer and was given 6 months in July.
She works and we also have our own business. I try and do what I can, but he lives 40 minutes away and is now very weak, living on his own, skeletal and unable to swallow anything except liquids.
He has a hospital bed at home but won't entertain carers or wear an alarm. He is alone from 5pm until 9am. He wpuldnt pass a means test and refuses to pay for care expecting my wife and her sister to juggle their lives and work between them. Its a nightmare. At what point should I insist we get outside help?
