Extreme anger from sibling of cancer patient - advice apprec

Hi,

My mother has recently been diagnosed with brain cancer, months left to live.

my sister has basically lost it. She is so angry, not a day goes by when I don’t wake up in the morning to a barrage of abusive texts. Recently this has moved to phone calls and voice mails for which I don’t answer. I’m also aware that I’m not the only one receiving these.

my dad is unaware as he is struggling already.

whenever I receive a call from him I’m unsure if it’s my mum passing, or sister having been arrested or worse (I took a call last weekend from an old friend saying she was on a train being abusive and threatening to everyone)

to make matters worse, she works on the nhs, and so any action I take could have a big effect on her future

 

any advice greatly received.

thanks

  • Hi ya ...

    Oh dear ... think your sister may have huge issues ... sometimes hearing that news can tip loved ones over the edge ... she sounds like she's really loosing "it"  ... she needs medical help .. before her anger not only gets her in trouble ... but she's missing valuable time with her mum .. her/your mum  needs calm and reasorace right now .. not fighting siblings ... everyone needs to make as many good memories as is possible , coz they have to last a life time ..

    That may be the reason she's being so angry at everyone .. it's NOT an excuse... no one should be on the end of someone else's anger .. anger just festers and grows till it's overwhelming... what is she so angry about .. that may be a clue as to why .. but if I were you I'd delete her name and bar her number .. and tell her you'll only talk when she calms down .. you have enough to deal with as it is ...her anger is her problem, don't let it become yours .. 

    This is so sad .. this is the time you should be helping each other ... not tearing each other apart ... but you can't control her or make her get help .. she has to admit she has a problem and get help to deal with those feelings ...   Chrissie xx