Hiya,

A bad situation. I'm going to die at home. If I was in your mum's position, my family would simply have taken me home. And nobody would have stopped them.

I think hospitals and such places have a legal duty of care and do what they think is best, which will not always accord with the wishes of a patient. But their saying you can't go home is simply that, them saying it. 

There is no invisible mallet that will smite you if you choose to take your mum home. 

When I'm in hopital, I make the decision to go home, regardless of what I'm told. And I have been told on numerous occasions that I can't go home yet.

It's surprising how they soon rush to get things done, like discharge papers, once they see you on the way out.

The caveat of course, is that you must recognise that you are taking responsibilty., and accept the consequences.

I have no idea of the legalities of the situation but as you're effectively taking her home to die, I can't see there'd be any problem.

If it were me, I'd just take her home and grant her what might be her last wish and the ability to die with some dignity.

Best Regards

Taff

PS A quick search shows for example "If the individual’s need for care is a health need then there is funding available through the NHS called continuing health care.  This funding pays for the individuals care costs in full, regardless of whether they are receiving care from carers in their own home or if they are in a residential or nursing home."

Wave a Solicitor at the GP.

Hiya,

thank you you for this - she has full funding on the NHS continuing health care. But I was told they would never fund care at home.

i found an alternative care home for a live in care the same price as the nursing home. But they said - A) they would never fund it & B) that it wouldn’t be enough care to cover the 24 hrs a day.

I was told I would get x 4 nurses a day & nothing at night and not be able to cope.

Then I was told if mum had a seizure or fell out of bed and broke her hip, she would be sent into  hospital and never come out & it would be very distressing for her.

i said she could break her leg or have a seizure any where any time, but they still refused.

Hiya,

thank you you for this - she has full funding on the NHS continuing health care. But I was told they would never fund care at home.

i found an alternative care home for a live in care the same price as the nursing home. But they said - A) they would never fund it & B) that it wouldn’t be enough care to cover the 24 hrs a day.

I was told I would get x 4 nurses a day & nothing at night and not be able to cope.

Then I was told if mum had a seizure or fell out of bed and broke her hip, she would be sent into  hospital and never come out & it would be very distressing for her.

i said she could break her leg or have a seizure any where any time, but they still refused.