My mum was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer and a really poor prognosis of life expectancy in September. The diagnosis completely floored us as a family and as I live a considerable distance away I had to stay off work and care for mum. Arrangements also had to be made for my dad to move into a care home as he has dementia and mum was his sole carer.  I'm getting help with care but I don't want to be anywhere but here right now. 

Initially my employers were understanding and my line manager said I should get signed off work by my GP in order to stay with my parents and care for my mum.  Mum has now outlived her prognosis but she is very frail and is not going to live much longer and day by day I can see her deteriorate further. 

The problem I have is that my employers are putting pressure on me to get back to work in the new year. I can't bear to leave my mum now and I don't think I could function at work even if I did go back now but I need to keep my job not least of all to pay my mortgage and bills. My sick pay will be cut to half from next week but I could just about manage on that for a month or two if necessary. I just don't need the added stress of occupational health assessments and workplace interviews just now. 

I just don't know what to do for the best but I don't want to regret not being with my mum until the end.