Unhappy living with Cancer

My husband has stage 4 and beyond.  Every time they do radiation it works for 3 or 4 months and then you start the grieving process all over again.  I don’t think anyone in this family including myself is handling well.  His Dr. says to go live and take time to get some happiness in my life but when I do I feel guilty and his family members get mad and gossip and judge and carry on non stop! He’s so sick and they just want drama all the time.  I’ve learned after 22 years of marriage they have never cared about me and just can’t handle the situation. I have chosen to move us closer to my family to get out of all the drama and to have my family and friends to help support us through this.

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  • Hi Dena,

    He's your husband and its your life. If he doesn't judge you, why bother if they do? Some people thrive on drama and stress - usually the same people offer no practical help and just get in the way if and when they can be bothered to visit. 

    I'm with Lonnie Donegan on this one, "you can't please everyone, so you might as well please yourself". 

    I'm sure you're doing the best you can for him, but his doctor is right, you need to get some happiness in your life. Otherwise you'll be rubbish at caring for him because you'll be tired and depressed all the time. 

    Best wishes

    Dave

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  • Hi Dena,

    He's your husband and its your life. If he doesn't judge you, why bother if they do? Some people thrive on drama and stress - usually the same people offer no practical help and just get in the way if and when they can be bothered to visit. 

    I'm with Lonnie Donegan on this one, "you can't please everyone, so you might as well please yourself". 

    I'm sure you're doing the best you can for him, but his doctor is right, you need to get some happiness in your life. Otherwise you'll be rubbish at caring for him because you'll be tired and depressed all the time. 

    Best wishes

    Dave

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