boyfriend pushing me away because he has cancer

Hi everyone,

Just really need some advice. 6 month ago my boyfriend found out he has cancer, he had part of his liver  cut out after surgery I was there for him and kind of grew even closer. He started feeling better everything was great we were happy plnning our future together, until he started having pains again and found out that cancer is still there. He knows that i am willing to be there for him but he started pushing me away, hes not telling me what doctors saying, he been taken to hospital due to pain and I knew nothing about it he only told me week later. He says i stress to much and it stresses him and he does not need that. So I try stay calm but he still so cold with me and pushes me away. I really dont know what to do I love him so much and I want to be there for him, now he saying we cannot be in relationship anymore so we agreed to be friends and im happy to do that I just want to support him and want him to get well. I decided to give him some space now to think about everything, i just dont know how long should i leave him for like that I worry and want to check on him. Im not sure what I need to do how I can support him and be there for him.  

  • Welcome to the forum Hope192 although I'm sorry to hear about your boyfriend's diagnosis and the impact it is having on your relationship.

    It can be tough when the one you love pushes you away but it could just be that he wants to protect you. It could also be that he may just need a bit of time to come to terms with what is going on. I can't begin to imagine how tough it is for you at the moment but for now maybe just take your lead from him. He knows you are there for him and I'm sure when the time is right for him he will open up about what is going on and what he is going through at the moment.

    There are quite a few members that have been in the same situation and hopefully some of them will post soon to offer their advice and share their experiences with you. I'm not sure if you're aware of this but you can also look for previous discussions that are similar to yours by using the 'search forum' option above. Do give it a go and get involved as I'm sure our members would love to hear from you and do all they can to help you through this difficult time.

    All the best,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator