Hi

Though I stayed put when my husband was diagnosed,I was honest from the start and eventually reduced hours to be able to cope.  Think Dave's response would be the best policy and wish you the best of luck when you go for interview.  Jules

Hi

Though I stayed put when my husband was diagnosed,I was honest from the start and eventually reduced hours to be able to cope.  Think Dave's response would be the best policy and wish you the best of luck when you go for interview.  Jules

Thank you. I would stay where I am but they have been rather unsupportive and at time down right cruel!! When I explained I would be assisting with my mums care I was told I should just put her in care and be done with it!!

I have been told in no uncertain terms this reduced hours are temporary & even now when it comes time for me to go home there's always a problem with it. It's sad really I've been there many years and even though I've been treated poorly throughout my time I thought when I really needed it they would come through, I can't believe how wrong I have been :( 

The stress from work has given me anxiety attacks & stress related hives, I can't and I won't continue to go through this anymore, I feel as though I am agreeing with their views on how I should handle my situation by staying. 

Hi

It is so hard when long term employers cannot seem to have compassion when someone is facing such difficult times/decisions within the family.  I am sure you will do what feels right for both your Mum and yourself and hope you have other friends and family support along what is a hard journey at the best of times.

I certainly found it helped to write my feelings down here on the forum and welcomed the support I found and still find here. Sending virtual hugs and hope the interview goes well.  Jules

Thank you, well the interview is two days away and I don't know how I'm going to get through it, I feel like I'm losing my mind! I can't concentrate, I'm struggling with everything.

I do have other friends to support me, the rest of the family lives far away, I tried to explain how I'm feeling to my dad but he wouldn't really listen and just got annoyed with me repeatedly asking if I wanted to go on the sick, it seems to be I'm being told in not so many words to suck it up shut up & get on with it :( 

So sad that you are feeling this way when you are also obviously so worried about your Mum.  I am sure your Dad's words were not meant to upset you and that he too his feeling such emotional pressure he does not know how to deal with his own feelings either. My husband withdrew more and more into himself when he was ill and so I found it hard not being able to have an open conversation but maybe the very person who could help you here is your Mum; even a hug with each other can mean so much and do not be afraid to ask her for one or give her one back for that matter if that is a possibility.

If you are in the Uk you could try giving the nurses a ring on this forum and chatting through your fears and feelings as regards coping with your Mum's caring role alongside employment worries and maybe your own GP could advise on help for your own anxieties.  I can imagine you are feeling pretty miserable about everything but hope you can find that little bit of inner strength to get through the interview.  I have not been for one for years and think it perfectly natural to be 'quaking on the inside' so hope you have reason to go after what you would really like.  Wishing you, your Mum and family all the best at this difficult period.  Virtual hugs.  Jules