Saying things that you regret

I said something to a colleague last week. I felt like I was trying to help her but it turned out to be a huge mistake. She was feeling very sad about something that had happened to her in the past. I said that she should find a way to move on:either to find a way to make it better or to try to come to terms with it. I have stage 4 skin cancer and life feels too short to leave things unresolved. She was very angry and reported me to my boss. I had already apologised but I had to apologise and explain to my boss this morning. I feel tired and confused. I should know better to give advice without being asked but somehow it felt like the right thing to do. Has anyone else had similar feelings?

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  • Hi and welcome to the forum.

    I am so sad that your advice backfired against you and am sure many in your own situation would have commented in much the same way.  Having lost my husband to cancer  last year I can certainly say that I feel the same way as you do but these things do not always go down with others.  Please do not let it stop you from be such a caring person. Having apologised (twice) you have done more than enough and hope that you are getting the support you need both at work and from family. 

    Wishing you all the very best and carry on making the most of your own life.  Jules54 x

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  • Hi and welcome to the forum.

    I am so sad that your advice backfired against you and am sure many in your own situation would have commented in much the same way.  Having lost my husband to cancer  last year I can certainly say that I feel the same way as you do but these things do not always go down with others.  Please do not let it stop you from be such a caring person. Having apologised (twice) you have done more than enough and hope that you are getting the support you need both at work and from family. 

    Wishing you all the very best and carry on making the most of your own life.  Jules54 x

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