Hi LMB

It sounds like that you are in an almost identical situation to myself.

My wife has recently been diagnosed with secondary liver cancer which is also neuroendocrine with the primary unknown. She is in bits as we have 2 boys aged 10 & 13. She was diagnosed 3 weeks ago and until only yesterday we hadn't told them.

I was torn between respecting my wife's wishes and not being honest with my children. The would never forgive me in the future especially as it was becoming obvious to our close circle of friends that my wife was unwell and other family members had been told. They were going to find out.

We sat down with them and explained that mum has a cancer inside of her and she was going to get treatment. They took it all in their stride but we have been economical with her prognosis. Her cancer is aggressive and have been told if treatment does not work then it is only months that she has left. If they knew this they would also be in bits. We will have to break this to them as time moves on but it is not easy.

We are taking each day as it comes and do not know what the future holds and it is dark but the kids mean everything so we have to be strong for them.

We are trying to keep things normal with daily routine, schoolwork, family arguments etc.!

I can only give you my experience and it is a huge weight off my shoulders telling them - they are a lot more resilient than us!

Hi LMB

It sounds like that you are in an almost identical situation to myself.

My wife has recently been diagnosed with secondary liver cancer which is also neuroendocrine with the primary unknown. She is in bits as we have 2 boys aged 10 & 13. She was diagnosed 3 weeks ago and until only yesterday we hadn't told them.

I was torn between respecting my wife's wishes and not being honest with my children. The would never forgive me in the future especially as it was becoming obvious to our close circle of friends that my wife was unwell and other family members had been told. They were going to find out.

We sat down with them and explained that mum has a cancer inside of her and she was going to get treatment. They took it all in their stride but we have been economical with her prognosis. Her cancer is aggressive and have been told if treatment does not work then it is only months that she has left. If they knew this they would also be in bits. We will have to break this to them as time moves on but it is not easy.

We are taking each day as it comes and do not know what the future holds and it is dark but the kids mean everything so we have to be strong for them.

We are trying to keep things normal with daily routine, schoolwork, family arguments etc.!

I can only give you my experience and it is a huge weight off my shoulders telling them - they are a lot more resilient than us!