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Taking time off to care for Terminally ill wife

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Hi all,

My wife 31 year old has stage IV lung cancer and has been fighting it for the last 4 and a hlaf years, the last few treatments havnt worked and the pain etc is getting worse,

My wife has never aksed the doctors for a time scale and they have never said anything (thats the way she wants it)

Time is precious and im thinking about doing less hours at work or working from home, can anyone help legal advise on this,  we have a 6 yrs old son as well

I have worked for a small family run (not my family) for 18 yrs now and dont want to get funny with them as they have supported me so far

I need to have a chat with them but need some advise first pls

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    Hi there Alif, I'm so sorry to hear about your wife having lung cancer. I wanted to welcome you to the forum and although I can't give you any advice about your job, I just wanted you to know that I read your post and I feel bad for everything that is going on in your family. You are such a young family with a young child and it is so sad that this has happened to you. I'm in Canada so even what I know here likely wouldn't apply there anyway. I gather from you post that the family company where you work is aware of your situation. Would it be possible for you to speak with the person in charge and ask him/her what options you have for taking some time off to care for your wife. It seems like you are a loyal employee for 18 years, so there may be something they can suggest. Another option may be having some help from family or In Home Support people to help out while you're at work, if you can't get time off. I feel really bad about the challenges you now face. I hope that these possible options may be of some use to you.

    Come on to the forum anytime for support or to rant, cry, whatever you feel you need to do, but let us know how you're getting along.

    Take care.

    Lorraine 

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    Hi there Alif, I'm so sorry to hear about your wife having lung cancer. I wanted to welcome you to the forum and although I can't give you any advice about your job, I just wanted you to know that I read your post and I feel bad for everything that is going on in your family. You are such a young family with a young child and it is so sad that this has happened to you. I'm in Canada so even what I know here likely wouldn't apply there anyway. I gather from you post that the family company where you work is aware of your situation. Would it be possible for you to speak with the person in charge and ask him/her what options you have for taking some time off to care for your wife. It seems like you are a loyal employee for 18 years, so there may be something they can suggest. Another option may be having some help from family or In Home Support people to help out while you're at work, if you can't get time off. I feel really bad about the challenges you now face. I hope that these possible options may be of some use to you.

    Come on to the forum anytime for support or to rant, cry, whatever you feel you need to do, but let us know how you're getting along.

    Take care.

    Lorraine 

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