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My return to work after our nan passing

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Hello All,

After my nan passing, I was signed off by the doctor to help me with the loss of our nan. I had five weeks off and returned to work last week. I am on a phased return to work so at the moment I am only doing mornings, but this has helped me to get back into a routine and I even went for a weekend away last weekend to celebrate a friends birthday. At first I felt guilty for planning to go and thinking of the fun that I would have, but after returning to work and visiting my friends, the guilty feeling went and I am beginning to realise that I shouldn't feel guilty and that I am allowed to have fun.

I am now glad to be at work and planning a weekend for the girls to see me. The break the doctors gave me and the support I have had from this forum has been wonderful.

Thank you all for listening and for your support.

Nav

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    Hi

    Have just caught up with your thread and have to agree that returning to work brings with it some kind of normality.  I lost my husband just over 2 months ago and had a month off as compassionate leave (I only work part time) at the insistance of the GP. I do not have a particularly stressful job but still find that sometimes its not so easy. The grieving process is different for us all and taking things day to day seems the best way forward.  Like you my biggest hurdle is the guilt I feel when  am out being social with friends and family and am sure they feel the same!  Despite being told over and over that there is no reason to feel this wayn I think it is a natural part of the process and that accepting it will just take time.  The forum has been 'my companion' for a great part of my journey and I am not sure where I would have been without the support - sometimes you just want to shield your loved ones from the emotion of it all and its great to have an understanding virtual friendship the forum offers.  Look after yourself.Jules54

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    Hi

    Have just caught up with your thread and have to agree that returning to work brings with it some kind of normality.  I lost my husband just over 2 months ago and had a month off as compassionate leave (I only work part time) at the insistance of the GP. I do not have a particularly stressful job but still find that sometimes its not so easy. The grieving process is different for us all and taking things day to day seems the best way forward.  Like you my biggest hurdle is the guilt I feel when  am out being social with friends and family and am sure they feel the same!  Despite being told over and over that there is no reason to feel this wayn I think it is a natural part of the process and that accepting it will just take time.  The forum has been 'my companion' for a great part of my journey and I am not sure where I would have been without the support - sometimes you just want to shield your loved ones from the emotion of it all and its great to have an understanding virtual friendship the forum offers.  Look after yourself.Jules54

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