So as it’s suggests I’m 40 and I’ve just been diagnosed with ovarian cancer and awaiting an operation to remove my right ovary tube.
I am the bread winner of the house and I’m petrified. I’m going to lose my job and get medically retired. I already have health issues related to Mesh in the bladder and literally just returned back to work February of this year after I made your operation.
so I know that my Sick won’t be that much if anything and it looks like I’ll end up going on half pay which is not great.
but now with the cancer being diagnosed, I do fear but because I work for the local government they will try to medically retire me. I had so many issues with the Mesh they did try to medically retire them but I was able to come back and work which is what I wanted.
I don’t want to be a burden on society and I’ve always just plodded along and hoped for the best.
I don’t know what my options are. I don’t know how this will affect me financially if it was just me I wouldn’t worry so much but I have a 13-year-old son and husband.
I’m selling anything and everything I feel I don’t need anymore. I’ve given up everything due to my ill health anyway.
So my question is this has anyone else being diagnosed at 40 and how did you cope? And how are you coping financially? I earn too much to get anything like benefits and I own my own home so I feel financially I won’t get any help and if I didn’t work, we would not be able to afford to live in this house.
I also wondered if to have a full hysterectomy sadly ovarian cancer is in my family and I’ve gone down the same route. I don’t have a supportive family as in my mum and sister we are slightly estranged. My dad is disabled so he doesn’t have the capability and I wouldn’t want to stress him out.
Even the in-laws, so I’m feeling pretty alone. I have the odd couple of friends, but I also don’t wanna burden them with my fear.
Any help or advice is very much appreciated as I’m scared and feeling alone.
apologies in advance if my grammar is not at its best I’m heavily dyslexic so I don’t always see the mistakes.
Thankyou
