Hello Leigh41

I'm so sorry to hear about your diagnosis and then on top of that your domestic situation and the struggles you're having in your relationship. it sounds like an incredibly difficult time for you and it's understandable that you're feeling as you are. 

You don't mention in your post if you have any family or friends around you that can offer some support. I know it can be very difficult to confide in someone but you've made the first steps in reaching out for help here on the forum and I'd really encourage you to talk to a friend, colleague, or family member about the things you've shared here on the forum. If you're not able to speak to someone then please talk to your GP or breast care nurse about your situation so that they can support you once your chemo starts next week. 

It's understandable that you're feeling angry. It sounds as if this relationship isn't healthy for either of you and certainly if things are escalating to violence then you do need some support. If you feel that things are moving in that direction again please consider calling Samaritans to talk to someone in that moment of crisis. 

If you want to talk to one of our team of nurses you're most welcome to call them Leigh. They're available Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm on 0808 800 4040 and I'm sure they will be happy to offer any advice and support that they can. 

The most important thing now is that you reach out to those around you for practical and emotional support ahead of starting your treatment next week. Concentrate on getting through this and you can make decisions about sorting the rest out once you've recovered. 

Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator 

Hi Leigh,

I completely understand how you're feeling. I got diagnosed a couple of months ago. I've had a skin and nipple sparing mastectomy, and I have my 2nd cycle of chemotherapy in the morning. My partner left me when I got diagnosed..... by a WhatsApp message.... at a time I needed him the most. I'm literally at breaking point... he promised to come to all my appointments and never has, he never even picked me up from my mastectomy because he when out for a night out instead. I've found out he was cheating on me. So I'm now battling all this on my own. To top things off, my hair is massively falling out. I tried the cold cap on my first cycle but it was horrendous. I have a severe migraine for 2 weeks following wearing it, and the thought of wearing it again knocks me sick to my stomach. I feel like I've lost all my identity.