Feeling lonely

My Husband has stage 4 Bowel cancer and is currently going through chemotherapy treatment,he hasn't been to ill with it, but recently he has started acting strangely towards me I can't seem to say or do anything right and he is isolating himself from me and hardly speaking has anyone else experienced behaviour like this from their partners please?

many Thanks 

pauline 

  • Hi there Pauline...

    So sorry, I know how hard this can be ... all to often it effects their behaviour and they seem to turn on those closest to them ... I think it's a lot of things ... fear / confusion and the effect it can have on the brain to ... one thing I'd say is my amazing sister who was the most wonderful sis ever, turned into telling us to f off ... lots of the time .. and being quite mean to us ... 

    We knew it wasn't her , it was the illness ... so even though it hurt, we could understand it ... but what I would say, is when he starts on you ... get out ... walk away ... go for coffee or walk in the park... anything .. untill he realises if he does get angry .. you just go ... try not to get so angry back ... just know this is too normal in these stages ... but let him know when he's o.k you'll stay and chat and be there .. his desese is the reason ... it's not an excuse for you to take it ...

    Know your not alone ... lots on here will know that emotion ... you can come on here and let it all out .. vent or chat ... it helps to get it out ... sending you a vertual hug.... chrissie xx

  • Sorry to hear about your husband but my husband was terrible being  married in 30 years I did not recognising him he  had lung cancer and he was on all sorts of drugs for the pain that turned into a zombie ,poor sod had aulcerated legs which he was in a lot of pain with ..he acted like I was the enemy I couldn't do nothing right for him I felt so sorry for him but all he did was shout at me and told me to go away but on the eve of his death he told me he loved me  he's passed on now so he's at peace but I still love him I always love him