HI Nannalou,

A very warm welcome to our forum, although I'm so sorry to hear why you've joined.  I've been through a similar diagnosis with my Mum who had secondary breast cancer in her brain, bones, liver and lungs and know just how devastating this can be. Since then I have had 2 bouts of primary breast cancer myself in the past 11 years and, am currently investigating a possible third bout.

There are a number of people on this site who are living with secondary breast cancer. Many have since outived their prognoses by a number of years.  All I can say is,  that it is amazing how much diagnosis, treatment and after care have progressed in the past few years. Instead of dying with breast cancer, many are now living with it.  I know first hand that there is just no comparison between my Mum's experience and that of my own. 

I hope that your oncologist can help to set your mind to rest next week. The way you are feeling is perfectly normal. Our emotions go into overdrive with news like this. I sincerely hope that your cancer is still treatable and, this is probably something that you'll discover when you have your discussion. If you have any questions for your care team, it is worth writing them down  and taking them with you. You will find it helpful to include some of your family in drawing up this list, as they may have different concerns. Sadly, a cancer diagnosis affects the entire family. 

At the moment, there are so many unknowns that it is terrifying. Once you know what is happening you will find that you feel better about it - although, it can take some time to process. If your cancer is treatable and you begin to fight it, you will begin to feel more positive. A positive 'can do' attitude will help your family and friends as well as yourself.

I am hoping and praying that treatment is still an option. Please remember that we are always here for you.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx