Unfortunately we can't dictate to others, even our partners and I know as despite having major surgery aged 60 for thickened veins due to smoking my husband still didn't give up.  Our daughters, me we all begged but he would do as he wished.  So fifteen years on he has lost a leg and has stage 4 lung cancer due to smoking.  I realised the more that I nagged the more he became determined to do his own thing.  You can try but if he is determined to go his own way he will.  Step back and just support him or you will become annoyed and angry and its not worth it.  Look after yourself and your family as they will support you and you will have known you'd done your best.  Carol x 

Hi I'm so sorry about your husband must be really difficult for you and your family. You are right he will smoke if that's what he wants to do . I hate watching him putting those cancer sticks in he's body so sad Thank You for taking some time to reply your so kind x

It's so sad to see them do this bit lots do.  My sister in law had a breast removal aged 47 due to cancer, fifteen years on she still smokes, drinks and doesn't care.  We are all different, sensible like you and me, not giving a fig for their own health are the others.  Take care, Carol x 

I just don't understand some people. I am on alot of tablets for mental health so I have to have blood tests every couple of months last time I went my blood test come back saying my liver function wasn't good I did drink sometimes alot other times not at all doctor said it was down to alcohol so from that day on I haven't touched a drop in 2 months that scared me take care x

Hi 

I can relate to yourself and your husband 

I was diagnosed with breast cancer in July 2020. I was a smoker of 20 a day with a husband who never smoked and he moaned at me every day I smoked, screaming at me saying why are you continuing this smoking when having chemo and knowing it probably cause the cancer. 
yes I continued all through my chemo to light up these addictive little life controllers until it snapoed. 
I decided to stop 2 weeks after my last chemo and 3 weeks before my surgery , I went cold turkey and it was hard but I'm now 65 days smoke free and have saved myself £650

Your husband has to want to stop, no amount of nagging moaning of going on at him will help only he can decide what to do

Hooe he sees the light abd quits as I feel so much better both feel healthier and am richer 

all the best