Hello to a new member, although it's not where you want to be.  My husband has lung cancer and now liver cancer but is obviously older than you aged 74 years, we have two grown up daughters and they have worried about him but we, like you, don't want them talking about death.  So my Dor06 thread has lots of chat and friends made over the past three years, join us and say whatever you like.  There is also private messaging so if you want do that until you feel comfortable.  I have Billy who has prostate cancer, numerous people who have lost partners, others who just want to say what they are doing, I'll put you on my followed threads as I am sure others will pop by and offer advice.  Here if you need me.  Kind regards, Carol x 

Hi Caseyjade,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

Although we know that our families have to face the inevitable one day, it is only natural that you don't want to burden them with your fears. This is something that many of us have difficulty processing. It is certainly worth joining Carol's thread, but I wondered if you might find it helpful to discuss your feelings with a counsellor? Sometimes, it is easier to open your heart to an impartial stranger than to loved ones. 

There are a number of cancer charities which offer a counselling service and you may find that they can help with some coping strategies, as they meet this problem frequently.

There are a number of us here who have faced or are facing this problem and we are more than happy to support you.

Kindest regards,

Jolamine xx