Christmas, covid & my dad!

Hi, just need a place to vent. So I have skin cancer & I'm on my second round of radio. I'm also starting b12 injections next week. If this wasn't enough I'm going through infertility tests. My bubble is with my partner and my mum. We agreed to have my dad in our Christmas bubble too (sperated parents) However, after endless conversations of me asking him to be extra careful (he's had cancer before too) last night he went indoors at a restaurant with 3x households and can't commit to sticking to the rules. I have said that if he won't do this we won't spend Christmas with him as I'm on high risk person list and gave been told my immune system is affected. He has turned it around that I am making him feel bad and if he gets a test 3 days before he sees me then what's my problem. I wouldn't have to ask any of my other family members to be careful or follow the rules and now I feel guilty for saying I won't spend Christmas with him. Anyone else in a similar situation? Am I being dramatic? Thanks for listening

  • Hello Woodydid, 

    I don't think you are being dramatic at all - you did the right thing in reminding your dad that he needs to be extra careful during these difficult times especially if you are planning to meet him for Christmas. It's good that he is getting tested before he sees you but it's important that he is also careful in the weeks before Christmas to minimize risk of exposure to the virus. 

    I hope that he has listened to your advice and that he tries to stick to these rules so that you can all feel safe enough when you meet up. What we are all having to go through at the moment is really hard and if your dad is someone who is used to socializing lots, this is going to be really tough for him. But perhaps there is a gentle way of making him realize that respecting social distancing and the current rules is crucial if he wants to be able to enjoy Christmas with his family without putting anyone at risk. 

    Whatever you decide to do, I hope you have a great time this Christmas despite these unusual circumstances.

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Thanks Lucy, he's been very apologetic now & has promised to follow the rules and get a test.. I'll take him at his word & keep the windows open!every Christmas