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feeling really alone and scared

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Hi i have had to wait almost 6 months for my wide local excision surgery which i had aweek ago. I am still very sore and cant lift my arm fully yet, my review is next thursday but my sick note from surgery runs out on sunday. Hospital says i need to get one from gp and they say get one from the hospital and work is really hasseling me. I feel really upset that i am having all the hassell,plus workmates think that i cant have have cancer if i have not had chemo. I just wanted to feel so much better after surgery but infact i feel drained, ugly and worthless, has anyone else felt like this or is it just me?

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    HI Laney

    Thank you so much, when something like this happens to you, you certainly find out who your real friends are. I'm glad you now have a supportive team!  It does get to you, sometimes that hurts me more than knowing i have cancer. Apart from my husband ,who is fantastic and my son   (who has autism) so its difficult for him to understand anyway , the rest of my family may as well not exist,i have not had one call or anything from any of them and yet i am the first one they call when they need something.

    Having someone to talk to who is going through the same kind of thing really is helping.

    xxxxx

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    Good evening mascot.

    Yes it's true,my family never been in touch also.

    My parents live with me because mum as dementia and it's hard for dad because they are both in their 80s.

    People do stay away,and like you say you would be there for them.Thats how I am ,first for them ,last for me.

    I'm sorry about your son,it must be hard for you dealing with your cancer and trying to explain it to your son.

    I'm back in treatment next week then 3 more cycles to go then radiotherapy next year.

    I never knew there was so many different types of breast cancers.

    One lady on this site is such a lovely person Hilly1 said to me I'm not on my own and your not.Any time you need to talk I'm here and always will be.xx

     

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