Bile duct cancer

i was just pondering to myself once again laying down resting had chemo yesterday I was diagnosed beginning of March and since then been on a rocky road I was given a prognosis of between 6 months and 2 yrs I was operated with stents to my liver in March whilst in hospital I had sepsis and since I have had 3 infections I haven’t been told that the stents have caused these infections but only that they could I am doing really well with chemo so I feel it is the stents that are dragging me down that and feeling constantly low to be honest I am saying to myself what is it all for I am going to leave everybody anyway and what with treatments and this horrendous virus I don’t have a life I can’t shop see friends my carefree chatter with friends has now stopped I am crucifying my children they by the way are 40 and 32 I am a young 61 yr old that has partied with my children over the years travelled the world with my partner worked my butt in to the ground please don’t feel I am giving up but I can’t stop asking myself why and it really can’t be true  over the years I have looked after people and cared but I have these moments of my heartbreaking and feel I am only hurting everybody that I love and want to protect xxx

  • Hello Danyman1961, 

    You have certainly been through a lot recently and I am pleased to hear you are doing really well with chemotherapy. Poor you though - having sepsis and then three consecutive infections that is certainly an awful lot for one person to have to deal with and you sound incredibly brave. It's normal to be feeling low with everything you are going through. It might be a good idea to talk to your GP about it and see whether there is anything they can suggest to help you. As you say, the current situation with the virus has certainly changed the way we live and our social interactions and all the more so for people who are shielding or vulnerable. It must be really hard for you not to be able to see your friends - perhaps you could try and talk to them on the phone or via video call? It's not quite the same of course but it might do you some good just to have a chat with them from time to time. I am sure your children understand and that they know how much you love them and that you know that they love you too and want to be there for you too as much as they can. You are right not to give up Danyman1961 and rest assured that this forum is always there for you if you need to talk at any time of night or day.

    Many other members will relate to how you are feeling at the moment and I hope that they will be along shortly to share their own story with you. Our nurses are also available on this free number 0808 800 4040 - their line is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm if you want to talk to them about anything. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Thankyou it does help knowing that there is some form of contact relating to my illness I am a strong person and I can fight but I know that there is no cure to this fight that’s what I find really hard but one day changes from the next so I am going to try and grab any happiness that I can xx