Prospect of hair loss

Hi, I start chemotherapy tomorrow and the prospect of having no hair by this time next week is freaking me out. I'm terrified of people seeing me with no hair, terrified my 1 year daughter won't recognise me and that she'll be upset. I've already told my husband I won't be doing any video calls with friends and family. 

I feel pathetic feeling this way (I don't even like my hair much!). The idea of the cold cap is awful to me for some reason, so I've decided not to try that option. 

How do people cope with hair loss? 

  • Hey there,

    please try not to worry!! I was diagnosed in November and yes one of the most upsetting thoughts are of losing your hair! I tried the cold cap and got in really well with it until round 4.... my hair by then had thinned therefore I could not continue with it, so I came home and got hubby to shave it off!! I have managed to keep my eyebrows so the look is actually ok! My kids think it's great and already within a fortnight it got growth!

    You need to stop thinking of what other people think - this is about healing and being positive. You beautiful little one will always recognise mum regardless!! 
    This is not an easy process - so do not sit there worrying about hair!! Be strong - be positive - you've totally got this!!

    Always here!!

  • Hi there ..

    Bless ya ... must admit it was one of my worst fears ... but now my 18 year old granddaughter is on her third round of chemo and radiotherapy and stem cell transplant... yes her beautiful hair is gone ...  but she's got a wig nearly the same style .. and I looked on search engine for head scalfs for younger ones to see what they had .. there's some really nice ones there .. so yes it's really hard loosing our hair ..

    But it's not perminant .. and it will grow back .. and look what you get in return ... time with your little boy.. so hold on, think of it as it's nessersary but temporary... I had a masectomy nearly 3 years ago ... now have a scar where my boob used to be .. but that also gave me ... time... so I'm proud of the journey I've been on .. and that scar is my war wound ... but I'm still here .. 

    My heart goes out to you ... but get that wig and scalf ready , before you see your baby .. and by then you'll feel more comfortable with it .. you got this lass .. wer all there with you .. your not alone .. sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie xx 

  • Hello Sarah Ad, 

    I am using the cold cap and find it very tolerable.

     My hospital uses the Paxman. I've used it now three times and hope it works. If you go to the official Paxman cooler website it explains the reasoning behind the cap. The nurses fit the cap as snug as they can get it and if you tug it yourself till you feel it is really hugging the scalp, that will help. Give it a go. I understand your anxiety. 

    Ceyenne

  • Thank you for your positive words. You sound so strong and brave! How old are your children? I know I'll feel better tomorrow once it all starts. 

  • Hi, I am so glad to hear your feeling a little better!! My children are 15-10-9.... all girlies!! 
    I think are going to be great - just don't google, go with how you feel, and amidst it all when you think you cannot - you dig deep and believe me YOU WILL.

    Here always!

    You totally have this!!!

  • I shaved mine off before i started as a. I didnt want my kids to worry (both primary school kids) me going to hospital for 3 days & coming back with it going /gone (it actually never started to all go to my second treatment) & B. I thought mentally it would be something hard to endure.

    It still was even though the only way I could have shaved more off was with a wet shave (your pillow & phone screen become covered as it flitters away) 

    The only thing I hoped I'd keep when it did fall was my eyebrows & eyelashes. Alas treatment 4 those bushy buggers are gone to & I'm holding on to my last few eyelashes.

    Still I've made a lot of wishes.

  • I totally get this!!! I was fed up with hair everywhere. Best thing I ever did was raking it away!

    i have managed to hold onto my eyebrows luckily - a few little fill ins - but nothing much! My daughter does them for me!!

    I trimmed my head again yesterday - just own it ladies!!

    be  strong!!! We all have this!!