Both parents with cancer

I have a very very close family. My father was diagnosed with oesophageal cancer in January 2016. His surgeon and oncologist were incredible and he made a full recovery. Unfortunately mid 2018 a routine scan showed something in his lung and after months of scans and surgery he was diagnosed with primary lung cancer. Since then he has had various treatments. Last year he had a tumour on his sciatic nerve which was found too late and following radiotherapy he was left immobile and having to use a wheelchair. He's 70. He's now been told treatment no longer working and cancer now in lung, liver and bones so they've given him 1-11 months. Just before the pandemic my mother 69 was diagnosed with breast cancer. The pandemic is hard enough without the added illness. My poor mum is looking after my dad whilst going through chemotherapy herself and heading towards major surgery in August. My brother and I are doing as much as we can but feeling very helpless. Our partners are struggling to cope too. Life seems to be such doom and gloom with nothing to look forward to just the devastation of losing my dad at any time. He is currently in a lot of pain and it's heartbreaking. Sorry maybe just wanted to acknowledge what we're going through. Thanks for reading 

  • Don't apologise Dysondog, you have such a lot to cope with and have every right to feel lost and sad.  There's really not much help I can give you, I know it's hard as my husband has lung cancer with primary liver cancer, he's 74.  Why don't you speak to their McMillan nurses and see if they can have some help.  There is help available, they can point you in the right direction.  Just to let you know that others care about you, I'm sure people on this forum will pop by too.  Carol x