Hi, oh wow what a charming boss NOT.

I guess the decision is yours to make, but he can't get rid of you.

You are covered by the disability act.

I have been off work from June last year and my boss has been amazing, and keeping my job open till I return.

He sound like an I'll informed bully 

Bug hugs ️ it's stressful enough without that b ring added to it x

Hello Dawn04,
 

                       its bad enough having an unsympathetic boss, but having a bad female one is dire.Personally l would do the research and provide the correct figures to set against her statements along with the address of this site on paper and leave it on her desk. Ignorance is a poor excuse for those claiming ability.

  Stay,take the time off and get yourself through your recovery and then take stock of the current position from a position of recovery and good health.. Your job is protected but if she moves for dismissal ,then you have grounds for that being unfair and you could not lose.

                      Good luck fot the remaining treatments,

                                                                                        David

Thanks David, that's sound advice. I think a lot of her comments stem from not knowing what to say so she thinks she's saying something nice and positive. Most of the time I have been able to roll my eyes and let it go over by head, but her last comment about keeping my job open really did upset me. I will soldier on through the rest of the treatment and take time to consider what to do.

Hi, I'm sorry to hear that your boss is not supportive and clearly doesn't have any emotional intelligence. I would have to challenge their statements and give them feedback on what they have said and how it's made me feel,  but that's just me.

So you are covered by the equality act which means that you can't be discriminated against because you have cancer, this includes needing time off for treatment.  I would suggest that you focus on getting through your treatment and place your energy there and make a decision about work when you are stronger.  Do keep a record of all of your conversations, just in case.
 

Here if you need to chat.

wl 

Thank you. Your boss sounds great! Wishing you all the best x

Wow, your boss obviously doesn't realise the trauma you are going through, mentally and physically. I would take as much time off as you can, after all your health is much more important than your job, be kind to yourself and look after number one, you're worth it. 
Best wishes

Silver 

You need to log this with HR and let them know what is being said to you, boss or not she needs Educating about employees rights.  Good luck with all your treatment.  Carol x

Hi Carol, 

The problem is that there is no HR. It's a relatively small business and there is no-one else to go to. I either have to put up with it, challenge her and potentially make things worse or leave. Not choices you need to be making at a time like this! x

Why not send an e mail explaining how you feel, but putting it politely, some female managers have no idea how to deal with other females.  Your thoughts are then logged in writing and will back you up.  I was accused of bullying by one work colleague and every time there was a problem I put it in writing, they did nothing so the tribunal found in my favour as I had written everything down.  Just a suggestion, but I wish you well for your future treatment.  Off to take hubby for immunotherapy treatment now!  Carol x

Hello,

If you can afford it or survive?

I would leave this ignorant and sad man who has no idea or the tolerance and heart ache that you have undergone.

My opinion would be to walk out and look after yourself. You are No1 and you want life and prolonged survival.

You have come a long way and that is my answer as you clearly want to live.

Good Luck

Andydorro1