It's so hard! I'm staying with my mom now full time as I was going home in the evenings but found her on the floor last week and she had been there for 7 hours. The nurse said she needs 24 hr supervision. I was going in and out so you should for as long as you can because eventually you will have to stay. Very hard to cope as havn't seen kids or husband at all except for 10/15 minutes. Yesterday she shouted at me that I am meant to be there to help her because I was trying to get her into the bed the way the nurse had showed us. I'm like come on lady i"ve given up my whole life and I'm not helping?  Keep getting breaks while you can,  as I have found being here all the time is really hard.

My nan is showing no symptoms yet as it was caught early. I do spend time with her but would like time with my children obviously. But my nan complains when she is alone. If I do,  as she asks I will b just sitting watching tv. This is frustrating when she knows I need to be with my children but still says she needs me there, it's making me angry and very upset. 

Hi there ..

So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment... it's truly heartbraking.. but you have a young family and they must be your top priority ... or you will run yourself ragged .. if I were you I'd see your G P .. or McMillan or Marie Currie... talk to them all .. your nan should be looked after at her age with what she has ... either a nursing home or hospice ... then you could still visit without the stress and kn9w when you leave her there's someone there to look after her ..

Then you will both have quality time together and time for your children too .. that's what I'd want if I get in her possisition... I'd hate my kids / grandkids to loose out because of me .. and please think carefully .. if you ended up there 24/ 7 your health pysicaly and mentally will suffer ... she may want to stay home, but for the sake of your kids and you, get help to care for her ... hospices are amazing places ... talk to one near you ... good luck ... sending you a vertual hug Chrissie xx

Thanks very much, I selfishly don't want to put her in a home and then yes I know I'm saying I want to be with my children so I sound like I want it all my way . I  have other family members but they are just not doing what's expected. I know in time when my nan passes I'll regret not spending more time with her but I'm taking 1 day as it comes and trying to do what feels right. Hopefully I'll figure something out or my nan will allow me to be from her for a hour or so, fingers crossed 

Thanks again xx