Hi Michelle, I can fully understand you being upset, men do seem to think they've drawn the short straw, but he's probably worried as well and it can make you tired also, I'm the wife of a cancer patient so I know how it affects you.  But, he needs to get his act together, I've hired a cleaner to help, two hours a week that leaves me less tired and able to cope.  Have you got the DWP payment yet, your McMillan nurse will help you with your forms.  The money is to help you cope and can be spent however you need.  Having twins is hard work but they are old enough to help as well, make their bed, pick up toys, set the table, do a little rota and stick stars on when they've done the job.  You all need to pull together not push in opposite directions.  Sit yourselves down at a table and have a proper discussion of how it should be whilst you have your treatment.  Good luck, Carol x