so we are fast apprroaching the day that my partner has Radical prostatectomy.

Im 39 and he is 62. we are not married and together we have 2 boys. His consultant advised that the surgery is the best option due to a number of reasons.  The thing is im so heart broken... i wanted another child. He has said that this is not a good idea as he would not be able to see the child grow up.

I am already struggling with this and for the past 3 days i have found myself crying myself to sleep. He has also declined the option of storing his sperm. I don't know what do and i don't know what to feel. I can already feel us drifting apart even b4 the surgery. Then there's the added pressure of us having to deal with sexual problems as a very potenital consquence. This part will hit him more than me i think. I can already feel the unhappiness surrounding the household.

Its like YES i want him to have the surgery as when done the cancer is potentially gone...but its taking so much away from us  - it hurts so bad. I know its not his fault but i don't know how to feel. sometimes i feel angry but i know i shouldnt. we havent spoken to each other properly in the past 3 days. He is difficult to speak to as it is so trying to get him to open up ect is like hitting a brick wall. if i want to talk about making his next million he is open for discussion. i spend most of my time with the boys - we don't have date nights, family holidays or even just the two of us enjoying each others company - so as sex is very important to him i fear that we are going to struggle. the only positive i can see at the moment is that we have two heathy boys age 5 and 8 who are unaware of the situation and how either of us are feeling.

Has anyone else been through this or going through this? I woudl really lek to hear from you.