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I feel so alone

Chlo20
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Hello, I’m writing the post because everything is just getting on top of me. 

So it all starts when I was 3 and my mum passed away from Breast cancer so I was brought up without a mum figure which affected me. 

Then Christmas of 2017 my dad was rushed in to hospital after he had collapsed my dad was a healthy looking person ever you would never of thought there would be anything wrong. So a few days later while in hospital he diagnosed with bowel cancer which was a complete shock to everyone they said he had possibly been there for years so he was been treated for it over the year and in the meantime it spread to his liver but he was still being treated for that Aswell so it was all under control the scans were looking good it was growing it was stable until recently the cancer in his liver has started growing again so he is having to start with treatment again. I just feel like he isn’t going to get better and I am going to lose him Aswell. 

I just feel so alone , no one I know has been through this situation and I just feel like i have no one to talk to and I don’t know what to do

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    Hi 

    I m so sorry that you are feeling so sad and alone, I m sorry to hear about your mum and now your dad , I lost my mum to breast cancer 25 years ago and then my died died from lung cancer 8 years ago , I myself have been fighting cancer for the last 18 months. So I kinda get where you are coming from although it must have been very tough growing up without your mum bless you. 

    Do you have any siblings that you can talk to? Talking does help and getting support to help you through this difficult time so that you can be there for your dad. Macmillan are very supportive and I m sure if you google it may give you local support groups to your area. 

    Even people on this site will help you I m sure just to take away that alone feeling! 

    Its very hard when you see someone you love suffering but it helps to talk about it with each other rather than avoid mentioning things and it makes things more comforting  in the end. 

    I talked about everything with my dad and yes it wasn't easy at first but it is better ,we are all human and it doesn't hurt to show your emotions either instead of crying alone. 

    I m no expert in this field but whatever lies ahead for your dad it is important to be there for him and enjoy life to the end. 

    Sending a big hug your way and please don't feel alone x

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    Sending lots of hugs and love to you.

    Is there a support group for you, where you live?

    I joined my loval Breast Cancer one 12 years ago and found it my life line. 

    Xcc

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