Hi I’m 21 years old and I’m struggling with my dad’s diagnosis.

A few weeks ago we were told my dad had osophageal cancer, but wasn’t told the stages etc as I’m certain we don’t really want to know. The past week he was becoming more and more forgetful, disoriented and unbalanced so we took him to the hospital. He was rushed for emergency brain surgery on Saturday as it was found he had 2 rumours on his brain, and brain swelling caused by the cancer. He’s just had his second brain surgery to try to relieve the symptoms. I have a younger brother and sister, and mum, and we visit him everyday but it’s truly heartbreaking to see him this way. He is only 40 and usually very fit and healthy, he was only at work 5 weeks ago so it has all happened so fast. Yesterday we found out the cancer has spread to his stomach and brain.

U try to cope as best as I can for my mum and siblings as I’m the oldest, I know my dad would want me to get on with life. I just find it so hard to believe my dad is so poorly, I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to cope?? 

Thank you xxx