Hi,My mum had a mastectomy yesterday...We were terrified of the surgery, pain etc. My mum has zero pain at the moment. Only takIng paracetamol just in case... she has a drain in but has no pain from that either.We are amazed at how well she is. My mum has not had a reconstruction as she is 81 but a very active healthy 81. Try not to worry... My mum was so worried but now she can't believe how pain free she is.We understand as the days go by she may have a little pain but so far...nothing.Hope this helps a little.Wishing you a speedy recovery.

Take Care 

Donna

Hi there ..

I'll try to answer as many as l can ... but remember everyone is different ... 

1) I had very little pain also .. same as the other post on here, just a couple of paracetamol too ... l still can't believe how there wasn't more pain .. but lots of us have said the same on here ..

2) recovery is different for everyone .. and things like an ache and weakness where the lymph nodes were taken last the longest ... remember to not over do it, but keep to the exorcise leaflet ...

3) yes I had a couple of complications .. one was a build up of fluid and it looked like boob was growing back .. had to have that drained a couple of times ...

6) I found marks and Spencer do amazing masectomy bras .. so so comfortable and pretty to boot ..

7) must have a little altra soft pillow to put under the arm where lymph node were taken .. was a god send ...and when you look at it for the first time, just think of it as the cancer had to go ... and for me .. that was a small price to pay for still being here .. 

So fingers crossed yours will go well .. get that uninvited guest taken out .. a tee shirt I brought had a lass with boxing gloves on .. and it says ... cancer touched my boob so I kicked it's *** ... together well get it on the run ...  Chrissie xx

Donna

Aww I'm so glad your mums went well, and wow she's doing really well been pain free!

Thank you I hope mine goes as well.

Dannii x

Chrissie

Thanks for replying and being so honest!

A few ppl recommend m&s bras so may go take a look. Didn't think about a soft pillow...where did you get that from?

Yes most have told me it's under arm that you get most of pain from too.

So glad yours went well and that you kicked it's ***!

Dannii x

Hi there ..

I got my little pillow from my oncology nurses .. they had them from previous breast lasses .. who made them up for new masectomy ladies ... easy enough to make though .. about a 6 inch heart shape with teddy bear stuffing in .. it was amazingly comfortable ... and i wouldnt say that was sore, just an ache and limited movement .. 

You'll probly be anxious as it gets nearer .. we all were ... it's nateral .. but you can do this .. you sound pretty strong lady .. and I've got a spare pair of vertual boxing gloves if you need them ..

Keep in touch .. always here .. Chrissie xx

Chrissie 

Thanku I'll ask my BC nurse about pillow...if not my daughter's handy at making things.

Thanku I'm trying to be strong it's soo hard sometimes especially when my youngest (7) keeps asking when my hair will be back and when will I be better...I sometimes get lump in my throat thinking I hope I get to see her grow up

But then I think get over yourself and kick it's ***

I'm here for you too!

Dannii x

Hi Danni...

Bless ya .. this cancer isn't about just being brave ... it's about being scared witless but still looking it in the eye ... trust me everyone on here was scared at those early days ...  it's the fear of the unknown .. and that's why lots of us stay here to hold the new ones hand because we all remember how scary it all is ..

Now I know it's heartbraking thinking of your baby (they are always our babies) and she's only 7 .. well the pic I have on here is my amazing wonderfull granddaughter Emily. . She was 5 when I had my masectomy .. we are so so close ... she stays with me lots ... 

She asked me about my operation .. l told her that nanny was very poorly and had to go to hospital and the Drs were going to TRY to make nanny better .... because I have learned over the years, children are a lot braver then we give them credit for ... so I think GENTLE honesty is the best way to go .. they get scared when they arnt told anything ... she was happy with that ...

She even asked one day if I was going to die ... we always told her that bright star was my mum up there looking down .. and I said if I did, I'd be the star right next to hers so she could always see me and me her ..

A couple of months After my masectomy,  she was on my lap, and my falsy slipped as i tried to push it back, quick as a flash, shed pulled my tea shirt and could see my scar ... she yelled .. oh my god nanny, how you gonna feed babies now ... i still laugh .. and she sometimes puts a ball under her shirt and says shes only got one like nanny ... so you see its just finding the right words .. and if she sees you cry, thats o.k because that will give her permission to cry too .. and she will hold your hand and give you the strength to take this on ... you feel whatever you need to .. I had a whole day curled up in bed crying and seeing no one .. once I got it all out , l was ready to get the boxing gloves back on ..

Any time you need a chat, I'm here most days .. if you ever want to private message me .. press on pick and it will take you to my page .. send a friend request and I'll be able to chat directly .. it's up to you .. l can't take it away, but I'll help you through ..

Chrissie xx

Hi ya ..

I've accepted request ... feel free whenever you want a chat ..

By the way , Emily is 7 now too .. and every so often she asks me if my boob has grown back ... lol ..how amazing are they .. Chrissie xx

Hi Danni,

Four days after mastectomy still no pain, drain site a little  bruised but again no pain. The one thing that mum finds uncomfortable is the stockings to help reduce blood clots..that is it!!!! Drink lots of water...get yourself some lip balm.... and try not to worry. We have talked about the experience and the worst bit has been the anxiety and worry of the build up to the operation.... not the operation itself. Please don't worry. Wishing you well Danni.xx