Hello pinkblue19,

I just wanted to welcome you to our forum and I hope you will hear from others here who have been in a similar situation before and  have had to face such an important life changing decision.

I am pleased to hear that your husband's cancer hasn't returned and that you have been able to live relatively normal lives.

I will now let our members share their thoughts on this with you and whatever decision you take, we are always here for you anytime you need to talk.

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello,

My then 34 year old son was diagnosed with bowel cancer and full liver mets 12 days before he was due to get married on 15 may 2016.  Before chemo started, the ivf team collected the necessary to ensure that his wife would be able to have a baby.  Unfortunately he died 19 jan 2017 but they had discussed the baby question and he really wanted his wife to have their baby as did she.  After ivf on valentines day my daughter in law had a beautiful little girl on 21 oct 2017.   Obviously it is an amazing event and we all do as much as we can to help.  I am so sad the Jonathan did not get to see his little girl and that is so hard.  I dont think that any of us can imagine life without her.  I think that only you and your husband can make this important decision, consider all possibilities and make the decision that is best for you.  Sending love and big hugs to you and your husband.

lesliexx

Hi Leslie,

I cant beleive it is nearly 2 years since I posted this! I havent been on here since so I really do apologise for this scarily late response.

I am so so so sorry to hear about your son. It is lovely that your daughter in law has had a gorgeous baby, thank you for sharing your story. I am sending so much love to your family. Thinking about the dates it will be close to your grandaughters birthday! 

We havent had children yet but really starting to think about it more now we are getting older. It is a very tough decision at the moment. 

Lots of love xx