Hi my 70yr old Dad was diagnosed with stage 4 Lung cancer in May 2018 after suffering re occurring flu and pneumonia...It had already spread to his kidneys and Liver and inoperable. He was told if no chemo he would be dead by Xmas. He decided to hve chemo and is also on a trial drug. He had quite a strong dose of chemo so didn't have 1 every 3weeks for 6wks.. (think it was half this time) Dad wanted to stay positive, doesn't want any information wants to just get up each day and live rather than thinking, "oh my time up tomorrow as they only gave me 3months" He's a very fit and healthy guy and you would think just late 50s. Has his own gardening business still driving. He's single/lives alone. I live almost 800 rmiles away. My dad will not tell me the truth, and I do not know his Dr's to get any info. I have seen cancer and watched other members die of cancer...I hve seen posts on here...but just want to know what to expect. He was doing so well and most of had cancer 9 mnths now...I know Dr's sed with chemo he cud hve 12-18mnths. My Dad is struggling to sleep at night and sleeping more in the day...he says because he's drinking a lot of 'Tea'...I beleive the sleep is to do with the cancer. Iv heard he's not eating much...again something he hadn't told me. Iv now heard he has a 'sickness bug' I dnt beleive this to be anything to do with chemo as beleive his last chemo was September? Should I be worried? What could the sickness be?..or could it be genuine and just a bug?...As he was still goin to work everyday and driving and said he was fine I wasn't worried and beleived my trip back in the spring would be soon enough...as he's like an 'Ox'...but I'm now wandrin if this is the start of failing. We aren't close, I visited in the summer. He doesn't want special treatment wants to pretend all is normal...but I want to see him when he can still walk n talk. He doesn't really want to see me not in a nasty way...just seeing me isn't normal and means he's dying. But maybe selfish but I want to fly back even if he doesn't want to see me, for me, and he's still my dad...I feel I should be there as I'm his daughter...Yes I have commitments and would have to come back for a month or 6wks, and that would be difficult...but I feel I have to do it when it's time...Am I just panicking when hear sick bug...but it sent shivers up my spine...as he sounds like his normal day to day life has nor changed at all...I also realise he's trying to protect me so not telling truth..and also as sed he doesn't want to make a fuss...he's come to terms wivit...he's made his peace wiv all that he's had to and happy to just die quietly.