Hello, Adamss.  Welcome to this forum although I am sure it is the last place you wanted to be.  It is times like this when you question everything about life.  I feel that cancer is just so awful in its randomness. Are you an only child or do you have siblings (and other family members?) with whom you can share this tragic burden?

At what stage is your mum's cancer - and her prognosis if the chemo does its job?  I have to ask blunt questions to get the general picture so I hope you don't mind.  I don't have any personal knowledge of cervical cancer (haven't had cancer myself and noone I know has had cervical cancer)  although I have lost friends to lung cancer (and other cancers).  Are you in touch with MacMillan Cancer Support who I understand are very helpful and knowledgeable - and can give help with claimining appropriate benefits (don't know your situation).

Please do post here as often as as you like.  There are loads of people who have (sadly) had experience of all kinds of cancers and will  be very happy to listen to your fears and be happy for you to just have a rant if you want.

Annie

Hi Mark, this is a horrible situation to be in, my daughters are struggling with one parent with incurable lung cancer so a double whammy is shocking for you.  Take as much help and advice you can from the professional people and there are usually community cancer gatherings in your area.  Look in your parents surgery and check it out.  I would advise that you write a letter to the surgery, signed by them so you can be fully involved in their care.  This means you can take over and order things they need, call a Doctor out if you feel the need and any other help they may require .   Practical help takes the strain off them and gives you a focus to stay positive as you're not left on the sidelines not knowing what's going on.  We all have some form of cancrr on this forum so lots of people will offer help. They can also give the Mc Millan nurse permission to discuss their cases.  Carol

Hi Mark,

I am 21 and my dad has been diagnosed with incurable stage 4  non - hodkins lymphoma he is having chemo. My mum has just been diagnosed with breast cancer last week. I am also struggling with this situation and cant imagine my life without my parents. I take one day at a time and focus on what i need t do even if its for 1 hour or something then try and do the next task without letting the thoughts into my my mind.

I am here for a chat if you want to, I also need a friend at this point.

I dont have any advice but just wanted to send lots of love and prayers that your mums will be completely curable. You too Kay

My Mother has been battling breast cancer for two decades, in remission it reimmerged in 2011, which resulted in another course of intense chemotherapy which stripped her of her hair and dignity and a double mastectomy, in June 2016 my Dad was diagnosed with lung cancer and by July it had spread to all his major organs and on August 9th 2016 he passed away, it’s my life mission to spare atleast one family the pain we’ve had have had to endure, I’m compelled to write this to let people in the same situation know they’re not alone and to please please raise money for cancer research I’ve raised 30k in my parents name but it’s a drop in the ocean, everyone who has been affected needs to step up   and do whatever they can 

Hi sorry to hear this I am in the same boat my dad has terminal cancer and my mum has now been diagnosed cancer with on set dementia. I do feel fit you as I am struggling too x