Do you get fed up of people asking how long you have left to live? I do and it's stopped me leaving the house now .what should I reply without being rude?
Hello Downbutnotout. You could just tell them it is not something you want to even think about, much less talk about. I hope you don't get this kind of enquiry too often! However, not being in your position I know it is easy for me to make my suggestion. I just didn't want you to have to wait too long for someone to respond! And I hope others have better suggestions. Best wishes. Annie
Hi there ... look on the thread " things not to say to someone who has cancer " ... there's lots of good responses on there ... think I'd say something like " well better make this a quick conversation then "
Or where was you in the line , when god was handing out brains and charm .... and don't worry about being rude to people who say things like that to you ... you go out there lass ... Hold your head up and look em in the eye ... we have cancer not leprosy... so be proud of this journey wer on ... you don't realise how amazing you are .. start to believe in your self and there are plenty of wonderfull people out there ... it's finding them ...
So brave lady ... sending you a big hug ... you go get em ... Chrissie
Well... I can’t believe how insensitive some people can be.
So... 1st I said some people.. not all. If someone said that to me ( I am a BC lady) I would not give a **** if my response upset them. They didn’t care about your feelings so don’t care about theirs. You tell em straight if u feel up to it or just walk away if not. You can do with out that kind of negativity. No one has said that t me but they do start off loudly saying how are you- then fading away to just mouthing elaborately the word “feeling”( while nodding knowingly).... sigh.
2nd Oh hun... don’t u hide away. If u fancy going out u go. Don’t change your lifestyle because of the few.
3rd if u need to vent, talk, share or have questions know we have your back nd are here for you.
Hi to you brave lady. People are rude and insensitive it's difficult to deal with. We had just started chemo lastApril for hubby's stage 4 lung cancer and I went to a friend's 70th birthday party. One guy approached me and started saying don't bother with treatments just let him die quietly, I was fuming and gobsmacked , who says that, so the point is not everyone has manners and can keep their mouth shut. So put your best face on, get out there and live your life, if people talk to you like that, they're nosy, not kind. Stick with good friends and family who will keep you away from those types, or intervene for you. Don't hide there are too many kind people, more than unkind ones. Stay strong. Xx
