Any advice?

Hi.

Not sure if I'm doing this right but here goes. My MIL was diagnosed with stomach cancer t4 inoperable in july this year and given palliative chemo. She completed her chemo treatment at the start of this month and has had a scan but was told she'd have to wait 7 weeks for the results. A previous scan halfway through her treatment showed 2 tumours in her stomach and both had reduced. The scan she had recently the doctors must have had a quick glance at as they told her they've noticed she has cavities on her lungs which could be an infection or or could be cancer. 

Why would they leave her so long after telling her about the cavities on her lungs? She's now worried sick and taking her frustration out on my husband by being nasty to him with her comments. This isn't all the time and we understand its because of her fears but she's upsetting my husband by doing so. I think if the doctors would tell her if it was secondary cancer or not it would help as the uncertainty is unbearable for everyone.

Thanks in advance. 

  • Hello Dahlia,

    I'm sorry to hear about your mother-in-law, what a difficult time this must be for all of you.

    Not a medic familiar with her case, it is difficult for me to say why it took some time for her to be informed about the cavities in her lungs.

    When will she have her next appointment with her doctors? Perhaps then it might be a good time to ask this question and other questions you all might have. Also, if you feel that speaking on the phone to someone medically trained might help, our cancer nurses would be happy to take your call, so feel free to ring them on their telephone number 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9 a.m. - 5 p.m.

    Once you know more come back and give us an update if you find a moment. 

    Best wishes to you and your family,

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

     

  • Hi Dahlia,

    Such a long wait for results is disgraceful. In your MIL's position, I would be ringing the hospital on a daily basis asking why it is scheduled to take so long, explaining the impact the excessive wait is having and asking how they would feel if it was their Mum who was being kept waiting so long.. It may be that the consultant is on holiday and no-one has thought to schedule an appointment with another consultant (this once happened to me). It might be that the consultant's diary is full - in which case she could ask to be given any cancelled appointments as long as she is willing to go in at short notice.

    If she isn't keen on ringing the hospital herself, she could ask her GP to chivvy them on her behalf or even get permission to give her the results at the general practice surgery.

    I hope you soon get this resolved.

    Best wishes
    Dave