Hello Holly

I am sorry to hear this. I am in the same position with my sister-in-law, she does not like the shakes is cold and sleeps a lot. She now has a blood clot and has lost over 6 stone. We expect that this will be our last Christmas with her. It breaks my heart BUT I am deterind to have a really happy Christmas. Cancer will rob our family of this wonderful woman but it wont stop u having a nice Christmas. I intend to work around her and go with the flow. If she sleeps that's fine, if she has some lunch better still. I have made the house as festive as I can and plan to relax, chat and enjoy our time together.

Regards 

Colleen

Hi Holly and Colleen,

I am so sorry to hear about the situation you both find yourselves in, particularly at this time of year.  Are you aware that there are many different types of build-up shakes on the market? If your loved ones don’t like one particular make, ask the nurse/doctor to supply another.

My mother-in-law has dementia and hardly eats anything. Her nurse supplied a selection of shakes from different manufacturers  to start with. When we found one that she liked, we stuck to it. Perhaps this might work for you both too?

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

That is what we are planning to do as well. Itt's the only thing you can do really.

I hope you have a good Christmas.

xx

Jolamine, that sounds like a good idea about the shakes.

My Dad is under a dietician because he has lost so much wieght, I will have to ask them  when we next see them.

Hello to you all

I am so sad to read of all of your posts and wanted to share with you that we too are in exactly the same position. My husband was diagnosed in July 2017 and spent the last few months having treatment, his last scan showed that his cancer has spread and we were told last week that he only has at best a few months but could only be weeks. How to face our last Christmas together ? Our grandchildren are only young but are all so close to their grandad that my heart feels like it is being ripped out . To see my beautiful strong brave husband being consumed by this evil disease is almost too much to bear. People all tell me how strong I am but they don't see the person I am at 3 in the morning when I lie in bed waiting for my husband to take his next breath. My thoughts are with you all and hope that you all manage to make some special memories over the next few days as ultimately that is all we will have to get us through whatever is to follow in the future. 

Much love, strength and hugs to you all.

Love Chris. Xx

Hi Chris

already learning one day at a time is the best way forward.

I hope you have a good network of people around you. Take as much joy out of the coming days as you can, and save memories for you and your grandchildren to treasure.

It must be so hard to see a spouse go through this.  Praying for strength and peace for you.

Lulu