Hi Stacey,

I am so sorry to hear of your diagnosis, but glad that you are getting treatment, I hope it's all going ok for you.

My Mum had breast cancer many years ago and I went through her journey with her, so I understand how you are feeling. My Dad was a little like your husband, quite distant about it, and it was myself who went on all her chemo appointments with her, rather than him, so I understand your frustration.

Have you tried talking to him? Asking why he won't talk about it, support you, or help you out? Will he open up to you? It may well be that he is simply scared, or just doesn't know what to say or how to act, if he's never had to face cancer before. It's pretty scary, and he needs to be aware how daunting it is for you too.

Do you have anyone close who can help you out or go on appointments with you for moral support - parents? Brothers or sisters? Close friends?

xx

Hi Stacey  I've got one thing to say - lay down the law girl! YOU are the one going through it - he's there with you. It is hard for guys to understand it all and perhaps he just shuts it all out because he's scared. You need to talk. My hubby was the same for a couple of weeks. Does he have anyone he can talk to about It? Make species add to the stress rather than help sometimes. What you're going through is one of the hardest things and if he can't support you then that's a choice you've got to make. There's no excuse for that behaviour in my eyes. Nip it in the bud as I found it really tough after treatment. You are worth alot more than this. Sorry but it just angers me so much when this type of thing happens. Perhaps get the nurse to speak with him? It's hard enough without having this on top.

You think of yourself first and if something isn't down well tough really. You need rest and time to recover. Is there no family who can help you? Take it easy and put this to the side as your recovery is the only priority.

My husband is emotionally bereft.   I have been married for decades.  For me he is out of control and I am no longer in mothering mode seeing andvirganising everything.  Why stay. Well.the answer is dr jeckl mr hyde.  Sometimes life ok. Long story. I raised two children and put them first. I seek my emotional support elsewhere. It's hard but I get strength from out with my marriage.