Hi Shirl,

It must be very difficult trying to convince your kids that all is ok when you feel so scared still. How many kids do you have?

Unfortunately, none of us can forecast how well we will be able to cope with chemo until we try it out. This is always a scary time. Do you have any friends or family who you can confide in, or who can help you out with the children while you are having chemo? You are likely to feel very tired and to find it difficult to cope with housework, ironing, etc whilst you are having chemo.

Will be thinking of you in 2 weeks and hope that all goes well.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi there Shirl .... it sure is a scary time .. and looking after 3 kids on your own is no easy feat even without this .... my expiriance of cancer and kids (I've got 7 grand kids from 26 to3) is if they think your coping and you tell them gently what's happening , they might have a little cry and say they are scared ... but if you can hold their hand through it with GENTLE honesty .. they have an amazing way of coping .. better then us adults ... we had a dilemma with my 5 year old grand daughter Emily  ... she must have heard bits and pieces from conversations.. me and her are inseparable and she adores me an me her .. she asked me one day if I was gonna die .. so she knew I was in hospital for my mastectomy and she came to visit ... she knew i had an "ouchy" her word for any scar .. she cuddled me and asked bout it as she knew it had gone .. I told her it was making nanny poorly so it had to go to help me try to get me  better .

The thing she was worried about was how I was going to feed babies ... I'm 63 ..  she just takes it as normal now .. she even put my spare boob up her jumper and said I'm just like you now nanny .. she was only panicking when we weren't honest with her ... 

you have to do what you feel is the right way , this was right for me .. and all the grand kids keep me going and make me smile every day ... so please be kind to your heart and know wer all here for you whenever you want to chat .. and we all have a story to tell , but we hold each other's hand and oh so slowly we get there , whatever is in the future ... and all those feelings your having are normal but try to take one day at a time .. as looking at the whole picture is overwhelming .... you are stronger then you think ... hold on in there ... big hug Chrisie xx

Thanks I’ve got 3 children. 30,17 and 13.. I rang my 30 yr old last night as all I was doing was crying. My son was at his girlfriends and came home. We had lots of cuddles and cried together. I’ve got 4 grandchildren, 11,6 4 and 2. Told the older 2 that nana is poorly  and will take medicine and it will make me poorly and loose my hair..

Its something which is out of my control and I’m scared stiff...

Ive got a Macmillan support worker will get in touch with her and see if she can come out tomorrow.

Hi there ... so glad he's on board now ... think a hug from our kids is the best ... and they can hold you up for awhile ... keep in touch ... lots on here are / were  scared and I'm sending you all my thoughts ...may be dr may be able to give you something to help for awhile ... I think you hit the nail on the head , it's prob so overwhelming because we feel wer carried along this rollercoaster and where we always had control of things that happen to us ... now we feel it's gone ... hold on tight brave lady ...and as jolomine has great advice , she's a good one to listen to ... big hug Chrisie Xx

Thank you. Will get through today then get onto with Macmillan support worker tomorrow also ring my nurse. I saw the doctor the other week and he said I’m bound to be feeling low as it’s a lot to take it. I’ve got sleeping tablets. Take them when I need them. Will take  some tonight..  It’s the not knowing how I’m going to feel afterwards.. Once I get things straight in my head I will kick this....

Hello Shirl.

Ive yet to have my results of my biopsies but have been told its "highly likely that I have cancer as the lumps are very suspicious". 

At least in this day and age we have people to talk to about all things cancer related and we are not alone and I think these chat forums will get me through.

We will all have good days and bad but im trying to stay positive and I hope you can too. 

Ive got no children and have yet to tell my family. I will tell them once I know myself.

Keep your head held high.

Take Care 

Sue x

Hello Sue. 

Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. 

Ive been on auto pilot since finding out so knew it was just about time for when it hit me.

when I went I was told it might be cancer but didn’t tell my family till I knew for certain..

Good luck and take care

Shirley.x

Good Luck to you too.

Ive not been given a diagnosis yet. I was told that on the day of my initial examinaton. 

Trying not to listen to my body as I think its all mind over matter and Im just being a hypercondriact. 

Currently at work and hope to be for a long time to come. 

Hi Shirl,

I have been on holiday for the past couple of weeks and know that you were due to start chemo whist I was away. I just wondered how you are getting on with it?

Kind regards,

Jolamine  xx