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The good and the bad

Sandra123
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Hi peeps

I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Taking the excellent advice on this website I pretty much started by taking it one day at a time. This does indeed help. 

I thought to share the good and the bad and would love to hear anyone else's should they wish to share.

Today I had both a good and a bad moment. I received 2 letters in the post.

The first was from the hosp confirming my op date (my bad moment) cos my stomach dropped and I had that now familiar feeling of anxiousness take hold for a moment but shook it off cos I know it is needed. 

The good - my 2nd letter - as if... a tax rebate - boom  . Not half put a much needed smile on my face . Reckon a my treat family meal is in order.

Eeee it's the little things ain't it. 

Take care peeps 

Sandra x ️X

 

  • Offline in reply to Chriss

    Oh my Chris..... so sad reading your post. I am so so sorry for your loss. I place my virtual brow against yours and weep with you. 

  • Offline in reply to Sandra123

    Oh Dizzel lass your roller coaster ride of life never slows down does it. So relieved things have settled down ... you take care of yourself ️ Happy bday wor little Vinnie... loving your profile picture ️ Keep us posted please .

  • Offline in reply to Sandra123

    Beach me lovely... I had my ( delayed) mammogram 2 nd September... my results came today... nothing of concern... yay. It is scary ... every time. 
    sitting in the waiting room ( on own cos not allowed anyone with you)... looking around can see the newbies with that fear you can almost touch, the repeats.. more relaxed but with a touch of tension. The faux nonchalance when your name is called. The forced smile and greeting with strained small talk. The stomach drop when you hear the post delivered and the hoped for relief when a thin envelope is spotted and opened. How you feel is normal... we all feel it lass. Not long now everything crossed for you me lovely x

  • Offline in reply to Sandra123

    So hows wor Billy and his lovely ladies doing? Hopefully the meds are doing more than just giving you hot flushes bless. Take care me lad ️X

  • Offline in reply to Sandra123

    Evening peeps 

     

    bad:- such heart sinking news to catch up on.
    Heard today my friend has died. She had lung cancer 20 yrs ago then 6 mths ago got the devastating news that it was back. Here we are... 6 mths later and she has died. The school yard has quite without her quirky sense of humour filling the time till our granddaughters come out. RIP my friend. 
    good:- 3 yrs clear since diagnosis... I am fortunate and know it.

     

    hope everyone's day has been as good as it can be x

  • Offline in reply to Chriss

    Had a few email notifications and thought I'd pop on.....Chris, I couldn't believe what I was reading. I'm so so sorry for your loss . Such a young age to have this illness let alone it take you away from the world. Poor poor girl but she sounded like a trouper who fought back with bravery and dignity and I'm sure she's made you all proud. My thoughts are with you and the rest of your family. Massive virtual hugs xxxxx

  • Offline in reply to Sandra123

    Sorry to hear your news too Sandra. This horrible illness never give up does it!! :angry:
     

    Billy....you can fight this. Just keep being you :-)

     

    Well growth scan didn't show great news. Her legs and arms were out of range on the low end so showing that there was no or little growth since my last scan. So I was given an amnio to rule out downs, dwarfism and other chromosome disorders. Thankfully they all came back clear and my most recent scan showed she'd put on weight and her legs had grown a little bit her arms are still a little short. I can cope with that! Got another scan in just under 2 weeks then will see if I need an early induction. I hope not. Wanna keep her cooking for as long as possible. Exactly 2 months to go yesterday which should fly by. Hopefully next scan shows more improvement. 
     

    Vinnie had a great birthday tea and a day out at soft play now they're finally open and his first pub lunch!

     

    Well I'm off to bed soon....as I try to go once Vinnie is down and obviously making the most of sleep while I still can! 
     

    Hope the rest of everyone's weekend is as good as it can be. Virtual hugs to my virtual family. Love to you all xx

  • Offline in reply to Sandra123

    So so sorry Sandra ...

    It seems this year is being extra crule to so many of us ... and it seems to be taking those lovely people that make us smile ... can't wait for this year to go away ... big vertual hug to you....  let's hope we get some good to counteract all this bad news ...

    Bless ya... miss you on here, but so glad you pop back ... how's those grandkids ... my two little ones keep the heart from breaking too much ... so keep well and catch ya soon I hope ....

     

    Cancer sucks big time ... Chrissie     

  • Offline in reply to Dizzle82

    Hi Dizzle...

    What a beautiful pic ... at least it's still one way we can see you little vinny... and got everything crossed for your little lass ... they do most their growing in the last two months... so every week counts ... 

    Thank you so much for your thoughts ... 

    So so proud of Jess .. she was totally amazing ... the saddest part was not being allowed to give her a hug ... because of stem cell transplant and covid ... so "what's ap" was our communication... and l can look back at her wonderful messages .. 

    The last time I saw her was the morning her mum was taking her to have her check up, where we thought she'd get the all clear .. sadly it wasn't to be, it was back with a vengeance and she never came back from the hospital ... her mum, my daughter in law,  was the most amazing loving mum, spending nearly every day up at the London hospital and nights back home to the two little ones .. making sure they all felt so so loved ...  I'm so very proud of her, and my heart breaks even more as I think the loss of a child is the worse pain ever ... 

    Well Dizzle, so sorry for such a long reply, but think it's helped writting it down ... please let us know how you go ... can't wait to see your new little lady ... big vertual hug to you all .. and a spiecial one to our vinny .... take care and keep well .... Chrissie  

  • Offline in reply to Dizzle82

    She is strong like her mother...here's to next scan showing growth again. Great news on the test results too. We used to say they are a worry from the moment they are born... who knew those were  the good old days!

    look after yourself lass x

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