The good and the bad

Hi peeps

I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Taking the excellent advice on this website I pretty much started by taking it one day at a time. This does indeed help. 

I thought to share the good and the bad and would love to hear anyone else's should they wish to share.

Today I had both a good and a bad moment. I received 2 letters in the post.

The first was from the hosp confirming my op date (my bad moment) cos my stomach dropped and I had that now familiar feeling of anxiousness take hold for a moment but shook it off cos I know it is needed. 

The good - my 2nd letter - as if... a tax rebate - boom  . Not half put a much needed smile on my face . Reckon a my treat family meal is in order.

Eeee it's the little things ain't it. 

Take care peeps 

Sandra x ️X

 

Parents
  • Hi Sandra,

    The nurses asked me to check out this thread and to sort of keep a diary going.

     

    The bad, my adolescent son has been diagnosed with testicular cancer this week and the CT showed its travelled up to his lungs which means after surgery he will need chemo. They'll put in a central line while they remove the teste with the tumour.

    The good, I'm proud of him for taking the news in his stride. He looked straight back at the doctor unflinching. If he'd turned to look at me or his mum we would've both started blubbing. Took it well did little man.

    We just don't know what to expect from chemotherapy.

    I'll post regular updates on here. First step is the operation on Thursday.

     

  • Hi ashm welcome to the forum, so sorry about your son, thank you for keeping us updated on how things are going, the ladies come on any time depending what they are doing in today, hope everything goes well best wishes.

    Billy 

  • Ah Lisa we have all felt the way you do this early on in yr diagnosis. I like many felt soooo much better once I got my treatment plan. Hope yours is as simple and straight forward as it can be. Everything crossed for you on Friday.  Will be thinking of you x

  • Eee Billy I love your outlook on things. 

    I hope all goes well and they do actually know what they are there for. 

    PJ is right don’t play things down tell it as it is on your worst day because that is what you must be prepared for x

  • So lovely to hear from you jbains. 

    Your mind sounds in a good place ️

    Eeek your son 21-  dont it just fly. 

    I’m pleased you have not gone back to work and kudos to you for recognising it is not time for you. Pushing through can often do more damage than good... you are doing the right thing x

     

     

  • Hi pj

    bless, hope it being so close isn’t effecting your breathing too much ️

    We had a huge thunderstorm last night but it’s done nothing it seems t clear the air here.... sigh.

    you have your treatment plan... yay! How soon do you start to kick butt? X

  • Evening peeps 

    bad :- none yay

    good:- full day looking after lil ones. A walk then rest of the day in their back garden. Most of it spent with them playing in the hot tub while I sat in the shade watch them like an old mother hen lol. Back garden... it’s enough for a happy day ️ 

    Hope everyone has had as good a day as they couldx

  • Hi Sandra 

    Bad :"when our great grandsons come round all they want is the Internet, youngest is 5 he goes real huffy till i say he can go in the lift I dread what some of the young ones will be like without phones and Internet, they'll be completely lost.

    Good :they only come round twice a month its nice to see them BUT,, we've got things they can play with but if it doesn't have a touch screen there not interested,, your lucky Chris wish ours were like yours, best wishes

    Billy 

  • Thanks Sandra, my breathing isn't too bad, in fact, the doctor yesterday said it was better than i thought.

    We had the thunderstorms too but it didn't make things any easier, we are forecast more thunderstorms tonight around 6 ish. I wish we could bottle the heat up and store it for the colder weather ... pie in the sky i know but maybe someone can invent this technology for me.

    Not sure when my treatment starts but it's the surgery option first, no walk in the park i know but i am as ready as i can be i suppose, hopefully within the next week or two.

     

    Bad : too early to decide so i will say none; lol.

    Good: the same, it's too early.

    That's a kop out :p

  • That's the youth of today. They have been brought up with technology unlike us so they don't know any different.

    Are you ready for your visitors today ? I hope they can do something for you. x

     

  • Why does everyone think today is Friday you the third one this morning, I'm having a good laugh to myself or has someone changed the calendar without telling me, boo hoo,,, best wishes. 

    Billy 

  • LOL, i think we will kid you on Billy and tell you that you must have got it wrong. I mean if 3 of us think it's Friday then it must be, right ! ;)

Reply Children
  • Is bullying allowed on the forum especially "(ladies)" against one harmless little me, it's not fair it's to hot to fight unless it's hosepipe at 30 paces, hope you are as well as can be expected even pj ganging up on me, cold wishes to all,

    Billy 

  • Lol Billy we’re probably just wishing it was Friday :D

    both lil one have an iPad and an iPhone. They mostly play games and listen to music on phones and watch kids YouTube nd movies on their iPad. That being said mostly used before bed for 30 mins or long journeys in the car. They love being out doors or inside doing crafts. 

    Tech has a place just not all the time lol. X

  • Afternoon peeps 

    bad :- none yay

    good:- finding shade yes....finding shade to sit in while lil ones are playing in garden nd hot tub. :)

    hope you have all had as good a day as u can peeps x

  • I've cooled our living room down five deg I forgot I had a cooler in the loft it's a fan in a box and at the back it has a small waterfall there's a tank at bottom and you can put ice pack in to get extra cold wish i remembered it earlier,, it bearable now before bed ill take it to bed room,, hope everyone good today. Just noticed a new ladies item for the hot weather freezing bra inserts to keep the bust cool, whatever next soon they'll have something for men but a bit lower down.cool weather,

    Billy 

  • Wow that’s brill bill with our hot flushes that may be a fan for all seasons :) x

  • Morning peeps 

    bad :- none yay

    good:- not got lil ones today but called in early to pick up hot glue gun I’d left. Managed to fil in a quick craft with them before I left ( plastic wine glasses that they put self adhesive jewels on - they love their goblets lol). Shops done lunch time me thinks

    have as good a day as you can peeps x

  • People been to see us said two three turned up, social services, physiotherapist, and a nurse, two hours of forms and explaining whots wrong as far as we know, they said hopefully carers within next two weeks then they'll order the hoist, hope every one tiptop as can be. 

  •  

    Hi everyone

    Just been for full results and care plan and i have 2 lumps  one is stage 2 triple neg and the other is also stage 2 but not triple neg. 

    I’ll have to have chemo first then a mastectomy.

    iv now scared myself stiff reading up on triple negative breast cancer! 

    Has anyone else on here been triple negative?? 

    Lisa xxx

     

  • That's sounds like good news Billy. Hopefully they all communicate with each other to get you some help. Why don't they just order the bleeping hoist now and it will be in situ in 2 weeks time instaed of having to wait. I think i should be in charge of their coordination, i'd get things moving along a bit quicker :D

  • Sorry Lisa, i am not in the booby camp so i can't advise but i'm sure the other ladies can help.

     I hope your care plan is agreeable to you ... that's a bit of a silly statement really because we don't have much of a choice if we want rid of the nasties that lurk in our bodies.

    The motto of CRUK forum is "stay away from that bliddy google" except they miss a word of mine out, lol [[ ]]