The good and the bad

Hi peeps

I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Taking the excellent advice on this website I pretty much started by taking it one day at a time. This does indeed help. 

I thought to share the good and the bad and would love to hear anyone else's should they wish to share.

Today I had both a good and a bad moment. I received 2 letters in the post.

The first was from the hosp confirming my op date (my bad moment) cos my stomach dropped and I had that now familiar feeling of anxiousness take hold for a moment but shook it off cos I know it is needed. 

The good - my 2nd letter - as if... a tax rebate - boom  . Not half put a much needed smile on my face . Reckon a my treat family meal is in order.

Eeee it's the little things ain't it. 

Take care peeps 

Sandra x ️X

 

  • Neibour came round to look after Mrs, so went shopping nice morning came out of shop heavens opened had on nice thin summer shirt got a bit wet but it stopped hot flushes i was cool at last (heavenly) hope your all keeping well love.

    Billy 

  • I know exactly  how u feel Nd it not even full blown summer yet lol. 

    After the rain this morning .... sun smiles on us:) 20 degrees had me sitting on the ground in the school yard for the 20 min wait for the other lil one to come out. 

    There used to be benches but they got rid of them and replaced with fake grass, plants nd trellised seats but they put cones out nd tape to stop us sitting on them at pick up time! 

    Might need one of those shoulder camping seats lol x

     

  • At least you can get up again, couple of months ago got down on floor to play with dog,. Then found i couldn't get up again, had to slide myself to a chair then climb up the chair i managed just, Mrs nearly fell off hers laughing at me, I'm not doing it again, 

    Billy

    P.s legs don't hurt but don't quite move right (old age rumatics) 

  • Awful how our bodies start to fall t bits as we get older ain’t it. 

    I know the school don’t have to accommodate us with seats... but don’t see why we can’t use the ones already  there because at pick up all the children are in class.

    There are a lot of grandparents  who do the school runs. Was talking to 2 yesterday ( as I sat on the ground) nd they said they couldn’t get down never mind back up. Age... 70 and 72 ( not to mention the hidden illnesses/disabilities they may have)

    No idea why they cone nd tape the seating area off ( see the caretaker put it in place before he unlocks the gates to let us in). 

    The school has just posted a pic of the staff clearing the small front area grounds.... everyone commending them for using their twilight training session to tidy the area. Truth... this area is not accessible to anyone to use other than the staff (2 seating areas, shrubs, bird table etc) Used for the staff breaks nd lunchtime. In short they used staff training time to make the seating area only they use attrative. 

    Oh oh.... I feel a letter coming on :D

  • Morning peeps 

    bad :- non yay

    good:- enjoyed cinema last night:)

    daughter just text to ask if fancy the Italian meal special ( 3 courses) today again. Heck yes but... this ain’t helping diet lol. 

    Have as good a day as you can peeps x

  • I have been quite upbeat so far - maybe because I have just been taking tablets for 6 months. I believe the real fun will begin next month when I see my surgeon again. Today I heard, however, that my husband's best friend died yesterday. He had lymphoma for 13 years and finally succumbed to sepsis. I am so devastated mainly because he always made a note of my appointments and would ring me that night to ask how it went. He was the only one I could truly be honest with as I always say I am fine to family and friends as I dont want them to worry. My rock is gone.

  • Hi dragonfly i know how you feel looseing your rock, when i was working one of my work mates was good at talking to then i had to retire to look after my disabled wife,. None of my family know i might only have a few years, years ago i was very ill wife started to panic and had a breakdown,. i cannot tell her the truth and have it happen again, she knows I've cancer and where but not how long i might have, i hope I've a few years yet but, i was originally given five I've used up three, i still feel OK it's just waiting that's the trouble that's why I'm on here i can't do much for me but i can help others it takes my mind off my own problems, (I'll tell her when I know for sure how long)

    Billy 

  • Bless dragonfly so sorry to be reading this. 

    Sounds like he was your confidante that you felt able to share your true feelings with regarding your disease. How this has hit you is understandable.

    i have always spoke truthful with my family... I wanted to be as open with them as I would expect them to be with me about... anything. When first diagnosed we cried, got angry, planned, went to appointments and even of occasion laughed... together. Even then I needed a bit more... I needed someone who knew because they too had the disease touch them. Those people were the ones  on this forum.. with the support, advice. Those who said they were afraid- I was too so felt less alone. 

    If this went overnight I would have been lost... this is what has happened to you but with the added pain of it being a friend.

    We can never replace him ... but we are here if you need to vent... talk , get something off your chest or ..... well anything.

    i am so sorry for you loss dragonfly. 

    Sending the tightest of hugs x

     

     

     

     

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  • Ah Billy... your input is invaluable... and we thank you.

    you have so much on your own plate yet make time for others ... yup thank you so much ️

  • Like i said it helps me if i can help others, i don't know why but it does, I've noticed there is a lot of brest lassies on here again, it makes you wonder how many don't come on the forum and struggle,. with waiting and treatment,.,. God bless.

    Billy