Hi All,

The Good- I received news from work yesterday that they will support me as much as they can during the treatment period i.e. paid my salary in full. I am so very grateful with this as we i dont have to think of financial issues during this bumpy journey.

The Bad- MRI found another 2 new suspicious lumps and last night me and hubby decided we are not going to go through with egg/embryo feezing. The toughest decision we have to make so far in our 13 years together. I've been strong(ish) since i was diagnosed but last night i broke down and cry. We are supposed to go through our IVF treatment ( received dates and all) but found out i have cancer 2 weeks before procedure :(

Thank you [@Sandra123]‍ for creating this discussion thread.

SC xx

I am sorry to hear this,  cancer has such a ripple effect. This forum has been a god send to me, everyone on here are immensely supportive.....I wish you well on your journey......and I echo your thanks to sandra123 for creating this thread......xxxx

Blinking heck lass... u do nothing by halves do u. Hope u are on the mend nd sorted soon .

JAMIE NEWS... wooo hoooo. Oh my soooo glad he has spent his time rethinking  and regrouping ️ Dragonfly fly is right it is so hard for any partner to watch from the sidelines feeling helpless that sometimes they need to walk away to get themselves in a better place to support you. I am sooo delighted to hear he has recognised that he needed some time and now back with you in a better place. Keep up the talking lass... don’t want it to ever get to blow point again. I smiled when I read your Jamie news... love happy endings ️ ️ ️ X

Hi dragonfly 

so glad u have the positive vibe( as indeed u should).  Hope the appointment with oncologist comes through soon ... my consultant said up to 3 wks for mine but chuffed when it came through for following wk :-)

bless no time to think about yourself with all the running around you need to do for your hubby. Hope u are trying to get away for short bursts even for a cuppa at local coffee shop...u need to recharge batteries a little to keep going. Oh nd cake have cake too ;-) ️

Morning peeps 

bad:- none yay

good :- been the look at kitchens....again. Sundial... had a lovely Costa coffee mmmm. Dinner at daughters.... now what t do... finished rabbits nd waiting for styrofoam eggs f b delivered to do decoupage.... think I am keeping China’s economy afloat lol. So... meet bling rabbit, flower rabbit, embroidery rabbit and pompom tail rabbit.... really enjoyed making them .. sooo relaxing ️. Have as good a day as u can peeps x[[]]

Sandra you always make me smile and love the bunnies!

Morning ladies. Hope everyone is doing ok.

Sandra - love your creativity. Anything one loves doing is a great distraction.  I remember I did colouring in an adult colouring book thruout those 6 weeks of treatment. Very therapeutic and passed the time. Helped me to feel some sense of accomplishment.

Stay warm ladies.

Afternoon peeps 

bad :- so cold it looked like my car has been dropped in water the shoved in a freezer. Can’t even open the doors cos they are frozen closed!

good :- can stay in all day as child free day yay.

ah jbains how right u are.... can’t beat a bit of distraction whatever it is that works for you. 

Done my mini cloches ( did 2 of them yesterday). Empty glade glass candle cup, old coaster nd tea light holder. Chuck bits nd bobs in then top off with 4 rusty washers nd a chess piece  ( got given loads of knobs but all a bit big so improvised lol ).  Now where t put em lol.

love to see anyone else’s distractions and or projects :-)[[]]

have as good s day as u can peeps. X

Hi,

Hope you are all well and coping with the ups and downs that treatment is throwing you

I won’t even try to pretend to have read all 247 pages of this lively discussion so will dive straight in with a question: 

does anyone have experience of mastectomy? I had my right breast removed last week, without reconstruction, though that is an option for the future.  The surgery is healing ok, though I have a drain in which seems to be taking forever to reach the required 30ml level (when it can be removed).  I am doing tree exercise and have much more movement than I thought I would BUT the back of my arm and my armpit is numb except for the odd  tingling sensation in my arm ... any tips for getting the sensation back? Is the tingling a sign the numbness might pass? 

ps - Sandra that playhouse is amazing! Inspirational as a proper garden playhouse is on my to do list for this year (for my 4 year daughter - not for me, honest!)

[@Chriss]‍ has! She’ll be along shortly!

Meltdown day today. Lost it with hubby - so sick of waiting on him hand and foot. He doesn’t want to help himself. Should have been going to Madeira today but his back prevented it. Hope to god he is better before I need chemo or mastectomy. Blue Monday it certainly is.

I’m massively behind on this thread Alison but just to say I had similar problems after my mastectomy. It’s because they had to cut some of the nerves. It’s worse if you have lymph nodes removed. At first I had numb and jangling sensations and a raw feeling on the skin under and on the back of my arm. The nerves will regenerate over time though (which was not explained to me so I thought I’d be like that permenantly!) Now it’s pretty much gone four months on apart from a little bit of numbness which I can’t notice unless I touch the area with my other hand.

I’m massively behind on this thread Alison but just to say I had similar problems after my mastectomy. It’s because they had to cut some of the nerves. It’s worse if you have lymph nodes removed. At first I had numb and jangling sensations and a raw feeling on the skin under and on the back of my arm. The nerves will regenerate over time though (which was not explained to me so I thought I’d be like that permenantly!) Now it’s pretty much gone four months on apart from a little bit of numbness which I can’t notice unless I touch the area with my other hand.

Evening ladies, hope your all keeping warm on this cold night! Did any of you watch Cold Feet tonight? They are doing a breast cancer story and it really did bring back all those feelings to me. The not knowing and how to tell family members there could be something wrong. I thought it was well told!

The good got my moonwalk pack today! Feeling excited about it seems so real now!

The Bad none!! 

big hugs to whoever needs one xx 

Aw beach I love to read your updates. The best of happy beginnings is your story. Hope for the many who find a lump that it can be non cancer. 

You keep up that positive vibe lass... we all need to hear the good from good people ️ X

Thank you Sandra, just lovely to keep in touch with you all and see how your doing! 

Its snowing here on the east coast!! X

Morning peeps 

bad :- blinking freezing .... literally lol

good :- reading a few of u ladies have snow... white here too but just a really hard frost... -6 driving t daughters this morning brrrrr.

keep warm peeps.

have a good a day as u can peeps x

Morning peeps 

bad :- still chilly but 1 degree warmer than yesterday day -5 lol.... keep warm peeps.

good :- tidied garden a bit yesterday nd found what would become my Easter ducks.....Weathered vintage ducks with mushroom coloured gingham ribbon....otherwise known as the 2 rusty ducks from me garden with a bow on - to go next to my Easter tree. Ha ha. 

Have as good a day as u can peeps x

Morning,

Bad......just found out my friends brother has 6 months left due to a brain tumour....

Good....watching good morning....and there's a piece about sex in you 80s and how enjoyable it can be....well...that's something to look forward to then!  

Hi Ladies- it's ffffrrrreeeezzzing!!! Think have a bit of a tummy bug as well. Sigh......wish I'd never gone to Canada. Feel so awful this past week that it's frustrating now.

Ok maybe I shouldn't grumble considering I'm not going thru treatment or complications but I've had my share and if I can't grumble on here then where can I?

Going dentist this afternoon which is sheer torture to me but hopefully he can sort out issue and I'll feel human again!

It's very cold and guess it's typical Jan weather. Time is going by very fast - Jan is almost over. Hope this year is a positive one for all on here. Keep warm and keep well.

L

Think you have been through enough to grumble!! Poor you still not feeling good hope your soon feeling better! 

The Good- met the man singing at my 50th birthday party today to arrange what he’s going to sing! My mum has done the invites now I am writing a guest list. So hard to decide who should come and who has drifted away so don’t need to be there! Have asked for no presents but donations to my moonwalk instead! 

The Bad- none except it’s cold again 

big hugs to you all x 

Mrsfingers - really helpful to know that your sensation returned in 4 months.  The docs and nurses have said it could return but no-one pinned it down to a timescale

I know we are all different but I always deal better knowing roughly how long, it must have been really hard for you thinking it was permenant.

A