Just to add to what JBains said, you’re never alone on this site. There is always some one to talk to, it doesn’t have to be about cancer in fact a lot of this thread isn’t about cancer but the normal stuff of life and also the good bits! 

We’ve all been at this point in the diagnosis cycle and it’s not a pleasant place to be. It does end and once you have your scan and a treatment plan you’ll have a focus for this and can move forward. 

Afternoon everyone 

well what a sad read the last few post have been :-(

My lot came out of the woodwork when the word went out. Apparently there is no pleasing us cos I felt so pressured by all the visits to b upbeat and reassuring for them all. As one left another landed. I found I was practically reading a script to them all... saying the same things. 

Don’t get me wrong once everything settled down nd I had time to come to terms with my diagnosis myself... I felt loved. Even friends I hadn’t seen in a while knocked on the door. 

I don’t know why some family nd friends struggle to b there for us :-(  I try to think if I have done this myself to others... certainly not to family but worry that pre diagnosis  I was so wrapped up in my own contentment that I failed to see other people’s need. 

Wonder if reaching out to them is an option... I know it shouldn’t b us doing this but......

All I can say is... b proud of yourselves people. Despite everything you are all doing what needs to b done to get your health on track. We may not want to do this alone but bottom line is we can.

For the first time I am glad my hugs are virtual because it’s the only way they are big enough to wrap around you all. 

We are here for each other ️

Hi all ...

Just read all these latest threads .. and think we all have those we thought would be there and are not .. and some you don't think, which are .. I remember looking at my hospital ward door, just wanting to see someone I love very much but fell out with come through but never did ..

Now I just think, we know who cares, and hold them even closer .. those that couldn't be bothered, no mater how much we love them, arnt worth the time of day ... and yes I tried reaching out, to get nothing back .. so now I'm loving those that love me .. 

And you know what, what we have on here is genuine.  .  Unconditional friendship .. that makes up for all the hurt we feel ... we can bend but not brake .. if all I had were you lot, I'd thank my lucky stars ... your all the most wonderfull supportive buddies there is ... and a big hug to you all .. the musketers ..  ONE FOR ALL .. AND ALL FOR ONE ... 

Hi lilyfern nd lemondrizzle 

well I too am a singleton just wondering what yr day has been like today nd what u have both been up to .... if u would like to share :-)

Me been for the usual Sunday family breakfast at pub, time with grandchildren then off to shop for a look around. I’m back home now watching tv. Rubbish job at shopping cos forgot t get some cordial so having t have a strawberry nd lime kopparberg.... tragic...not :-) 

have as good a day as u can peeps x

Hi Sandra,

A weekend alone for me. Spent it either watching TV,  reading a book or sleeping. The weather hasn't been so good to get out in the garden. I've not felt too good anyway and my Seroma is being a right pain today. 

Seeing my BCN tomorrow afternoon to check my wound, so I hope all is good.

I'm also getting worried about finances so I don't think that is helping. Got a list of things to do tomorrow that I should have sorted last week so that will keep me busy.

Dear Lemondrizzle  and friends , Looks like I open a can of worms ha ha. Seems like we all expect to get a little more from those we know .  They are there the first week but I guess afterwards which is going to their lives and they might think about us but not as often as we would like. Seems like some of us are all in the same boat for one reason or another one. My girls are nice girls but I guess They just get caught up in their lives and since my cancer it’s probably not deadly and they’ve said I’m so independent  they probably think it’s fine not to call or not to call often they probably think I don’t need anybody. I have one daughter calls me every single day during the week another one every 4 to 5 days and the other one hasn’t come in nine days and she doesn’t live too far either . Your sons are young and busy and they still  call you couple of times a week that’s pretty good.  They are traveling and busy with careers that makes it a little harder for them

 Imagine if family has a hard time keeping in touch with us  corkers even more . But hey we have each other. Nobody better than ours to understand us and to know what we feel. Tomorrow it’s my first day of radiation will see. Thank you have a great rest of the day you have an awesome week

 But hey we have each other. Nobody better than us to understand us and to know what we feel. Tomorrow it’s my first day of radiation will see. Thank you have a great rest of the day have an awesome week 

Hugs  

Good luck for tomorrow. I'm sure it'll all go well. Keep creaming!

Good luck for tomorrow x

Thank you Jabains!!