Thanks Sandra,  are you the carer or the one having treatment?   It's lovely that I'm not disappearing into the black hole, I sometimes wonder if hubby would notice if I had whilst watching golf

Lol... of course he’d notice... who else would keep him right and going:-)

Im a breast cancer lady. Treatment finished now so fingers crossed it don’t come back!

You carry on keeping it real me dear:-) x

That's good news!  It seems research is reaping rewards for breast cancer, it's a shame nothing has altered in forty years for better prognosis in lung cancer. Xx

My half brother telephones and it's not an easy conversation.   He's not been told hubby is incurable and I'm annoyed that his Mum neglected to tell him.  He's back to Australia on Tuesday as she starts her radiotherapy and is obviously concerned .  But I am past these false catch ups and say goodbye and we'll probably speak again in a few years time!!  So I head off to meet Jean in the wind and rain for coffee.  A girlie catch up and good news about her grandsons fiance aged twenty one who has had cancer of the overies,  spine and around the heart.  She has had to have a full hysterectomy to save her life and can never have children.   We raise our coffee cups in a toast to her having been finally given the all clear.  We take off to T K Maxx and buy her some bargains as she is going to the Isle of White for six weeks in their caravan.   Lisa has landed home but with a horrible sore throat and Faye gets back today .  So we have managed to keep Hubby 's ill health quiet!  It's  amazing how when you are living daily with cancer that you sort the wheat from the chaff.  Life's too short to waste on people not interested in you, concentrating on those who are there for you and truly care is the best thing in life.   Relationships are the true test of living a good life, so love those who care and don't waste time on those who only have thir best interests at heart.  See you tomorrow .

Hubby looked really fed up last night.   I think he copes remarkably well most days but sometimes it must hit him like a brick that he will always have cancer.  Because he has been looking a lot better people have stopped calling round but he won't  make the effort to go and visit them so it's difficult to be sympathetic as you have to give back to receive.  I look back at before the diagnosis and it's  always been the same he expects everyone to make the first move.  I feel that he goes in on himself and I can see this when I talk to him, he's just not listening at all, is this a symptons of having cancer,  does it make you shrink from real life because you can't cope with normal?  It's cold wet and miserable again so very little to report apart from normal daily life,  eating,  sleeping and food shopping!   He asked me what I was up to today, nothing I say, you'll be bored he says, no I won't  I need a day off!!  See you tomorrow 

Hubby is up in the night again coughing badly but I leave him alone as he hates me seeing him like that.  We have an easy morning and once again the weather, although not raining is still not warm.  I try to get hubby to go out for a while so I can hoover and clean the kitchen, he finally goes, under duress letting me know this as he leaves! !He's still missing so I hope he has some fresh air.  Good news yesterday all his blood tests have come back with no further action.  It's taken three months to get him to the correct levels and we are going to carry on with folic acid to keep on top of it.  It's  just a shame that the blood checks aren't done more regularly after radiotherapy,  this might stop  cancer patients getting so low it takes longer to get back on a level footing.   I read a lot of other posts on this forum and I know we are not alone in this, the treatment works but many feel let down by the after care, how can the medical profession not see this.  We are all going through so  much that mamy of us do not have the time or energy to alter these problems, but common sense should prevail so we all are treated properly.  Anyway enough moaning, we are still here to tell the tale and many are not. Xx

Completely agree about the radiotherapy, you walk out of the dept and that’s it. I got a phone call two weeks after I finished and that was the end of it. Nothing. Follow up with the oncologist was two weeks later “ Oh you've  gone back to work so you’re OK then” well actually I’m still knackered. 

It's lack of understanding on our part as you are bombarded with information and don't take it all in.  Surely even follow ups with the GP would be better than nothing.  I hope Rile roo that you are feeling less tired and getting the back up you need.  Take care. Carol

Any kind of follow up would help in my opinion. 

I wonder how many more feel this Riley roo.   Perhaps we should ask the Administrator on this site why you are left in limbo.  We went from October until January without seeing anyone, unless hubby was ill and the Doctor came.