Stay Strong

I have a busy day and come home to my lovely neighbour mowing my back lawn.  I chastise him and say  I would have got round to it, he knew I was struggling and came in whilst I was out.  These kindnesses make my day.  I think hubby is not looking well and voice my concerns.   Nope he says he's fine but a little niggle tells me otherwise.   I get up this morning and he admits he's not good..  appointment at Doctors and he has another infection.  I am being picked up by a friend to go to Wynyard Hall and gardens, the day is glorious and she has the soft top down,we arrive and I look like Bridget Jones after her ride in an open top car!  We have home made cake and coffee and meander the beautiful gardens looking at the pumpkins, sweetcorn and variety of flowers.  I suddenly spot a flower that hubby and I keep seeing  on our drives and it's driving him insane not knowing its name.  A lady hears us talking, takes a photo, Googles it and walks back to tell me, it's  called the common tansy. People are so thoughtful and kind!  Back home hubby laughs at the state of my hair, saying I look like I have been pulled through a hedge backwards,  charming!!  I tell him the plants name, lovely he says and promptly falls asleep on his sheepskin in the sunny conservatory.   Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in soon, I want my normal hubby back.

  • Hi Carol,

    I so wanted to send a message of support but my stupid brain won't allow me to construct anything.

    I offer my apologies for that but please know that I'm thinking of you both.

     

    Best Regards

    Taff

  • Hi Carol

    My heart goes out to you, I know the feeling so well and you feel helpless but trying to keep Norman upbeat like you are has got to be good for him. A change of scene is always a boost and hopefully he feels well enough to keep meeting his friends. 
     

    I hope you are ok too and you've got someone to give you a hug and let you know you are doing great.

    Thinking of  you both x

  • Hope you're bearing up ok Carol x

  • Hello to all you lovely caring people.  Norman has been in the depths of despair and its really hard to communicate with him, his interest in life is nil.  I had my covid jab Friday and was then made to sit in a freezing cold garage with the doors open because I may have a funny turn, I had to ring Norman and tell him why I hadn't come back out the front door that I'd gone in, I'll be out in fifteen minutes if I haven't caught pneumonia I assure him.  So apart from a really bad arm I'm fine.  Margaret and I did the cottage yesterday, put the China away and when I checked the extra box in the shed it turned out to be a crate of wine, I texted Lisa, she hadn't ordered any, well you've got a shed full of it I  tell her, we are both bemused.  The Christmas tree is up but Mary is going with me to decorate it in two weeks.  When I arrived home Norman was asleep and non communicative, he is trying but doesn't have the energy, he ate his tea and that was it.  He had opened the post and the Mara unit had sent him a note saying bloods Tuesday, treatment Thursday, that's good he said I'm getting my treatment.  It broke my heart to tell him that no he wasn't, he had completely forgotten everything that is planned for next week, he looked crestfallen, so now it's another phone call tomorrow to sort it out.  Faye face timed today and I explained what was happening, she spoke to her Dad and he bucked up a lot.  It is certainly swings and roundabouts at the moment.  My prayer is that the blood transfusion will put him back on track, treatment can be commenced and we can all enjoy a Christmas together.  Thank you for all your love and positivity it has helped me a lot, such good friends in life and cyber space what more could I wish for.?  Love to you all, Carol x 

  • Norman finally admitted to me this morning that he feels dreadful and could I call the GP.  They have been very good to us and asked if we could go down to the surgery but he honestly is not up to it, so having explained that we had a covid test this afternoon they said call when home and they would come out, they have just left and he has a severe chest infection.  I explained that the McMillan back up had threatened to admit him for intravenous antibiotics, apparently the surgery  would have given him more to take so what a waste of weeks of being left ill when something could have been done.  So it's now a waiting game until Friday and his blood transfusion.    I'm mentally drained and any kind comments have me near to tears, on the bright side my gift shopping is nearly done, the dining table, mattresses and chairs should arrive next week at the Christmas venue and yesterday I bought crackers and serviettes with deers, rabbits and Christmas trees on them so it's less for Lisa to pack.  Please God let us make Christmas with all our loved ones. Carol x x

  • Will keep everything crossed for you Carol x

  • Dear carol, another fingers, and toes crossed , for you and Norman of course.

    Keep positive.

    Love Billy xxxx

  • I dropped Norman off this morning with doom written all over his face, I don't want to go he said but he did.  Back in the car Darlington to Aycliffe, called in and had his glasses fixed, drove to West Auckland and picked up Ella's all in one fleeces, managed to knock the giant pink percy pig off its Box of chocolates whilst juggling a tin of Belgian chocolate biscuits for Sarah, don't worry the lady said as I picked him up, do you know I'm that polite I apologised to the pig for knocking him over!  Back home I've ordered Harry's presents, cleaned the cooker, had some lunch and done the washing.  I'm now awaiting son in law to collect the beds from my garage so the recycling bins can return to their rightful place.  He is painting the dining room and yesterday Margaret and I drove to Richmond in the biting cold to collect the Hare picture that matches the Fox one they've already got.  Coffee and a stale cheese scone, some Christmas shopping and it was time to come home and visit the prisoner in isolation I'd left behind.  He does make me laugh, he has been in since Tuesday and when we got in the car this morning he said, ooh fresh air I'd forgotten what it smelt like, as its 4 degrees with a severe weather storm forecast he's better off inside.  Scan tomorrow.  Take care, Carol x