Stay Strong

I have a busy day and come home to my lovely neighbour mowing my back lawn.  I chastise him and say  I would have got round to it, he knew I was struggling and came in whilst I was out.  These kindnesses make my day.  I think hubby is not looking well and voice my concerns.   Nope he says he's fine but a little niggle tells me otherwise.   I get up this morning and he admits he's not good..  appointment at Doctors and he has another infection.  I am being picked up by a friend to go to Wynyard Hall and gardens, the day is glorious and she has the soft top down,we arrive and I look like Bridget Jones after her ride in an open top car!  We have home made cake and coffee and meander the beautiful gardens looking at the pumpkins, sweetcorn and variety of flowers.  I suddenly spot a flower that hubby and I keep seeing  on our drives and it's driving him insane not knowing its name.  A lady hears us talking, takes a photo, Googles it and walks back to tell me, it's  called the common tansy. People are so thoughtful and kind!  Back home hubby laughs at the state of my hair, saying I look like I have been pulled through a hedge backwards,  charming!!  I tell him the plants name, lovely he says and promptly falls asleep on his sheepskin in the sunny conservatory.   Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in soon, I want my normal hubby back.

  • Oh please, you know you can ramble on to us until the cows come home and we will be here for you.    There is a limit to how much worry you can take and under that heading it sounds that things might not be so bad as you fear.    We will be here for you whenever you are frightenened in any event.   I know it will be a long week for you; your daughter sounds to be a treasure who will always have your back so please make use of all the people who have your interests at heart and don't sit and worry on your own.  Annie xx

  • Hi my golden girl, what a horrible time you are having, thank God for daughter's.  It is the waiting that is the worst and your mind goes to dark places, so it's natural.  I'm not going to say don't worry,  it's the nature of the disease,  you never know fully what is going on.  I'm pleased you have posted it does help relieve your worry  a little. A problem shared is good and know we are always here for you.  Love and hugs your way.   Carol xx

  • Hi Ladies,
    Gloria, How awful this has all been for you.  Hoping you will be able to get an appointment quickly.  Daughter's are wonderful and yours sounds wonderful.  It is only natural to worry, while waiting for tests/results.  We are always here though, ready to listen, and lessen your worries.

    Carol,  They finally got it all done with your car.  You aren't speaking in Mandarin, it's a case of we are female and as far as mechanics are concerned we know nothing about our cars (it's irrelevant whether we do or not).  That's my take on  it anyway.

    Hi, Annie and Julie.

    Off to bed for me.  Love to all.  Sue xx

  • I got so wet yesterday running around in the terrible wind and lashing  rain that I woke at 6am with earache and a sore throat.  Great just what I need before going away, why are all my plans scuppered by other things,  I've struggled on for  nearly two years and the minute I can get away it all goes wrong.   I got my car back, no charge as I sent the manager an email, I'm sick of people thinking we're stupid women, we seem to have to fight everything these days, doctors , hospitals,  insurance claims and life is hard enough when you're all ready fighting cancer.   Hubby has fretted all day about me travelling and it's getting to the stage where I wished I had never decided to go!  It's not worth the hassle,  but how long do I stay home for until the inevitable happens?  So I'm taking my I pad with me, not sure if I'll post but I'll keep checking in to see how you are all doing.   Love Carol xx 

  • Hello everyone

    Thinking of you all.  Gloria, poor you. I hope you get the right attention soon.  You do everything right by reporting stuff early and just get fobbed off.  The worry is horrendous.  Fingers crossed for you it's all resolved soon.  Carole, have a safe and enjoyable trip - you'll be fine!!  Is hubby worrying about how he will cope without you?  Sue and Annie, hope all is ok with you.

    Well we had the long awaited clinic appt for the scan results this afternoon.  Every option went through our thoughts.  The worst naturally, and the best (the 8 hour operation).  What the Prof actually did say was that there is still too much pancreatitis to safely operate.  So we have to wait for another 4 weeks, for another scan,  and then maybe a plan.  He did say pancreatitis can take 3-12 months to clear up!  This is a horrible waiting game.  At least we'll get Christmas out of the way without hospital trips (apart from the dietician and the kidney doctor...).

    love to all

    Julie X 

  • Hi girls,  I didn't make it to Lisa's because I came down with a raging sore throat,  couldn't sleep due to the pain and by six am I made the decision not to travel.   I felt so unwell I wasn't even upset..  So I had to unpack everything put the presents away and have stayed in all day.  Julie you must be at your wits end with all the delay, the only consolation is having Christmas together.   I'm signing off now as I can't concentrate much.  Take care all of you.   Xx 

  • Hi Ladies,
    Julie, It's lovely that you will spend Christmas with Dave and no trips for appointments,  You must be so frustrated though that you know have to wait another 4 weeks for a scan before any possible plan for further treatment.  
    Carol, So sorry to hear you are unwell and unable to travel.  It will ease Norman;s fretting at least.  Such a shame you aren't going to Lisa's now, it would have been a nice break for you.  Get well soon.

    I've had a lazy day today, but will be going out for tea tomorrow night for our Hydritherapy group's Christmas dinner.  Was also asked if I was interested in the movies tomorrow afternoon but had to decline as I will have Eli tomorrow.  Last time I should have him on a Friday as Deana has a place at one of the local day care centres starting next week on Fridays.  

    Take care and love to all.  Sue xx

  • Oh Carol, I am so sorry - you were looking forward to this.  Do take care of yourself - I hope that hubby is doing his best to comfort and cosset you.  I hope you are soon feeling better.  Annie 

  • Thank you girls but things have got worse. I am so unwell this morning that I crawl downstairs to make a cup of tea as a hubby has done his usual, not bothered to get up to see how I am.   I trudge upstairs with his tea and he says how am I?   Bloody mad is the answer, I slam his tea down tell him it's 9.30 so get up.  Back down stairs I call the surgery as I know I'm really unwell.  They want me to go down as they only do house visits for housebound people,  I am housebound,  still in my pyjamas,  not fit to drive and a sick husband.   We'll  get someone out she says. Hubby is ages and finally surfaces at ten thirty, he's had a really bad nose bleed apparently .  Of course it will be worse than my illness !  Anyway I've got a temperature,   chest infection and my blood pressure is high, what did Spike Milligan have on his head stone,  I told you I was ill!  John arrives thinking I've gone away, what are you doing here he asks,  I'm not well,  yeah you look terrible he says, thanks John!  So I feel very sorry for myself and am on antibiotics, hopefully I'll be better by Christmas,  this is the story of my life,  one step forward and two back,  oh and a lecture from Faye because I didn't get the flu jab .  I knew it would be my fault not Dad's for passing it on to me because he was too stubborn to get help, not a happy bunny today,  can you tell.?!

     

     

  • Dear Carol, Sorry I had to laugh.. When John asked what you were doing here, and you said, I'm not well.  His response, "Yeah you look terrible."  If he says you look terrible, you must be really, really, unwell.  We are just supposed to carry on an usual, regardless of how we feel.  With luck the antibiotics will start doing their thing and you will be much better soon.  Unless it's the flu, the flu jab won't have done anything to prevent a chest infection.  I think back to the last time Neil and I had the flu, at the same time, he thought he needed the hospital and I was expected to drive him... needless to say I didn't take him to the hospital, just the Drs the next day.  No medicines prescribed just paracetamol to ease the aches and headache and of course a certificate from the dr for time of work.  I knew there wasn't much point going to the hospital.  But of course he had so much worse than me, as always.  Has Norman at least made you cups of tea during the day?
    Had a lovely meal out tonight with most of our hydrotherapy group.  

    Take care Carol and look after yourself.
    Love to all.  Sue xx