Frightened lonely and scared

Hi I am a 51 year old mum to two beautiful daughters my youngest is 14. I was diagnosed with breast cancer on my birthday in July 2013. I had surgery,lymph node clearance,chemo and radiotherapy. My treatment finished in February 2014. In December 2014 I was re diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer in my spinal cord with a poor diagnosis I was told I would live around 2/2.5 years. On my wedding anniversary in November 2015 my husband said he couldn't cope with the stress and thought of me dying and left our family home. I later discovered that he was having an affair with a work colleague and had moved in with her. I feel that for the last three and a half years my life has stood still. I rarely go out socially as I fall asleep constantly I take care of my children my home as best as I physically can and try and walk my dog each day. I wish so much someone would just hold my hand and say don't worry I will help you xx

  • Hello,

    I am sorry to read your story, you certainly have a lot to contend with.  I cannot say anything to make anything better but would like to think that there must be somebody friend or family that can help you.

    Have you got a Maggies near you?  Sending you love and good thoughts.

    love lesliexx

  • Hiya, I am really sad to hear all you've been through. Your life has been changing its flow & having a cleanse. Just go with the flow. I cannot feel what you are feeling but it will be ok. I've always been told how strong i am & that strength leaves me when facing the many hardships but i found meditating gave me the strength to not only help battle cancer but life as well. You are alive & have 2 beautiful children. That is your strength. You will be able to get through this in your own way. I send you lots of strength as it will be ok.x
  • Thank you for your lovely reply. I do live quite close to a Maggies centre so I may give them a call. Xx

  • your husband is an idiot, I really mean more but it's not polite to say in text. My goodness even without all the cancer issues to deal with you have this betrayal! 

    You seem like such a strong and inspirational woman and your children must be so proud of everything you are doing? There are lots of cancer support groups that could help and if you have one near to you the Dove counselling service, something that really help me was the Macmillan support line, they are there 24hours a day and are great to talk things through.