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Don't know what to feel.

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Was diagnosed with oesophageal cancer in February 2016, now been diagnosed with secondary liver and kidney cancer. Was given six to nine months last month. Sometimes I forget I'm even ill, often it hits me like a sledgehammer, especially when the pain sets in. Just trying to make the best of every day. Anyone going through similar rubbish. Xx

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    Making the best of every day is the only way to live. I can't even imagine being told something like that. However you do have the right attitude.

    On a more practical note please do get your affairs in order. I do not know your personal situation. But create as many happy memories with those you love.

    Best of luck and remember estimates are just that

     I know someone who was given three months 8 years ago. So keep your spirits up and make the most of life. 

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    Cheers for the response. It meant a great deal. Xx

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    As Afy said, make the best of your days.my best friend had the same condition, sick for 8 months prior to dia gnosis. Curable at first referral. On second scan the tumour had shrunk by a third and operable without chemo and rad.so surgery was an option but no guarantee to be tumour free.so my friend opted out of both taking his chances that the tumour was dormant.it was hard knowing the odds.he finally passed away early this yr from PE,DVTand chest sepsis.all the side effects associated with chemo.but he lived his life one day at a time hoping for the tumor to stay dormant.surprisingly the tumour had shrunk, become necrotic,he was eating solid food,pain free,no nausea or vomiting.our bodies are mysterious.I miss my best friend so much.At 53 for him there was no going back ,no regrets. So live your life as best as you can.one day at a time.
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    You are right, of course. One day at a time to the best of your ability. We've gone up to Scotland for a week, it's one of our favourite haunts. It was a last minute thing what with being a little pushed for time. I suppose if we all lived our lives as though we were a little pushed for time we might get a bit more enjoyment out of things. I'm truly sorry to hear about your friend, it sounds like they were a very courageous person and I know they are at peace now. Xx

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