Hello there, 

sorry to hear about your cancer. In my opinion I would take no chances with this diagnosis. I would have surgery and whatever else they can give you. Keep asking questions, and don't worry about who you might upset. Your life is precious. Follow your instincts. I know you probably just wish it would all go away, it's a hard time right now. If your not happy get a second opinion and good luck with whatever you decide. 

I am only basing my opinion on my fathers journey with prostate cancer. He accecpted everything a clinician told him, and I regret now not having second opinions. Remember you in control, stay positive and well informed. 

Kind regards