Is she lying

 

Hello, thank you so much. Please read all! :( I have someone close to me who is really making me concerned. This might be a very long email. So, this person has had ovarian cancer for 2 years now. In the past 2 years there has been no difference in her state of being. It's someone who does not really get along with me although I still care for her. (Family) I had decided to cut her out of my life because she is toxic and emotionally abusive and enough is enough. But, then I started receiving texts along the lines of "Thanks to you I'll be stopping treatment. I hope you're happy you've ruined my life" etc. Or would only bring it up when we would argue. "going to treatment now, hope I die" so obviously this caused a lot of emotional strain on me. I decided to contact her again and say if she wants my help that I need to speak to her doctor. She has a very big history of lying. She said no. She said that nobody is allowed in the room with her and the doctors or nurses don't even talk to her or anyone. She wouldn't tell me a doctors name, cancer stage, hospital, clinic, how she got diagnosed, what specific treatment, what pills, nothing at all. NOBODY knows. Some family has started to cut her off because they think she's lying. So I did my research and educated myself and decided I'd go in person to see if she could tell me. She had 1 paper from 2014 saying she had a cyst and had surgery for it. To my knowledge, that is not cancer. There was not one paper regarding her cancer at all. She said she was doing "natural treatments" and was receiving injections in her head and hip. And she said she had her port for chemo in her hip/thigh. That did not make sense to me. Her story has COMPLETELY changed. She said she's only been receiving treatment  for January. 1 month. That means she waited 1 year and a half+ to get treated. She then said she only went to chemo appointments twice. Because I mentioned how she's been threatening me with her treatment for over 6 months but she only got treated for January. So that made no sense to me. Am I uneducated? Do they do "natural treatments" at these hospitals and inject your head and your hip and different places every time? There's been no weight loss, hair loss, sickness, tiredness. She actually has trouble SLEEPING. She says her treatment makes her not be able to sleep. She also said she leaves Friday's and comes back late saturdays but I can vouch that is not true as I used to live with her and had never seen her NOT there. She does not drive. I am so confused and stressed and her answers only gave me MORE confusion!! There were no papers about her cancer. I know this sounds terrible of me. Please offer insight on what you may know or experienced! 

  • My best friend did the exact same thing. Firstly, they always allow and encourage someone to go in with you as it helps when processing the info. My cancer nurses have been a godsend and are on my phone. I'm exhausted all the time and I've. It started my radiotherapy yet. Trust your gut. 

  • hello my mum had a different cancer but when she had the hospital her nurses always asked someone to for got and it states on the oncologist letter you can take someone with you we was always reserving paper work about her cancer and hospital appoiments it does make you wounder after reading your post I would like to hope that no one would lie about having cancer as it's a horrible thing and has taken so many lives including my mum x

  • My father in law Past away of brain lung cancer a month later my ex lied about his mum commited suicide of breast cancer now he's told 4 out of 5 of our children he has cancer but as other persons post his health situation has not changed he couldn't even tell me the machine he using at treatmen centre he contadicted his self by saying he took his mum to 1St treatment then said only people he hasn't told I'd his mum and our youngest daughter how can i get prove hes lying even though I know he is 

  • I think you know she is lying.  She obviously needs some help but not of the kind you can give.  As it is causing you a lot of stress (or so it appears from your post) I should block her totally until she gets some help with her fantasies.  She will not be the first person to tell this particular lie and I don't suppose she will  be the last.  Annie

  • Hi there curious ...

    Well I'm no Sherlock Holmes. . But I recon she's def got a problem ... there are so many reasons people say they have cancer when they don't... as sad as that is, it's a fact it does happen ... l think she sounds like she may have other problems, and it's comming out in lies ... the trouble with lies are the person has to remember every one or they are caught out .. 

    Maybe she's really lonely ... but there's no excuse to be so rude to you either .. l can only guess she's very sad person ... if I were you, I'd take what she says with a pinch of salt ... and not take it to heart ...

    Chrissie x

  • yep she's definitely lying , there's no way you can have chemo and not look and feel ill and also they send you home with the biggest bag of meds . The poor girl is ill but not with cancer she needs help , it's so sad she's using something so serious to get attention,